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To Post, or Not to Post ‘Selfies’ on Your Online Dating Profile


Selfies - CyberDatingExpert.comWith celebrities such as Rhianna posting ‘Selfie’ photos, should you jump in on the ‘Selfies’ bandwagon on your Internet dating profile?

Let’s start with what is a ‘Selfie?’ It’s one of the most popular hashtags on Twitter when someone snaps their own photo with their mobile phone. Usually it’s goofy, a bathroom shot in the mirror, or in the case of Rhianna, a bikini shot or two.

I love technology and there’s no doubt that the iPhone has made cyberdating a whole lot easier and so much more fun.

As the cameras continue to improve on the Samsung Galaxy, iPhones, and other mobile devices, while Instagram remains the favorite social networking photo site du jour, the prevalence of ‘Selfie’ photos are appearing more often on Internet dating profiles.

So who’s posting ‘Selfies’ and are they narcissistic, funny, expected, or a turn-off? Just because celebrities are jumping on the ‘Selfie’ bandwagon, should you?

In a recent Glamour magazine article, a list of 11 turn-offs to men who viewed women?s online dating profiles listed ‘Selfies’ twice.

Just makes me wonder how long you spent in your room taking shots that didn’t make the cut,? one guy claimed.

In addition, the bathroom ‘Selfie’ is an online dating no-no.

Unless it’s done ironically, in which case, are you free on Thursday? was another response.

Taking it a step further, research from the University of Birmingham in the UK found that too many ‘Selfies’ posted on Facebook could actually damage your relationship.

David Houghton, the lead researcher said, “Selfies, or self-portraits, seem to be some of the most irksome images.”

In a recent interview with the New York Daily News, I provided several tips for those who have no self-control when posting ‘Selfies’ including:

Ladies: No Bikini Photos. Just because Rhianna does it, doesn’t mean your potential online date will appreciate yours. A bikini shot is just lingerie with different material. A man will undress you with his eyes. There’s no need to say take me to the bedroom with your bikini ‘Selfie.’

Guys: Ditch the Mirror Photos. Posting a photo of yourself without wearing a shirt in the bathroom mirror has become as cliche as the woman who says she wants to go on beach walks in her Internet dating profile.

While authenticity is appreciated in posting recent photos, we know that the selfies shots aren’t usually your best. I say save them for Twitter, Facebook, and Instagram. Put your best digital foot forward and post the best photos you can of yourself. Add the dates they were taken, so your online date will know how recent they are.

Are you posting ‘Selfies’ on your dating profile? What has the response been?

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2 Responses to “To Post, or Not to Post ‘Selfies’ on Your Online Dating Profile”

  1. Linda Sherman on November 9th, 2013 3:15 am

    It’s also difficult to get a flattering shot with a selfie. If you are holding your arm out it is never long enough. It is the mirror you are dealing with lighting. Your advice to use them for social media like Twitter and Instagram is good but even then, I’d say take a good look at it first.

  2. Julie Spira on November 9th, 2013 9:11 pm

    Thanks for your comment Linda. Selfies are all the rage, but posting unflattering photos is never a good idea.

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