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I’m Taking Over the Your Tango Facebook Page

Ask the Cyber-Dating ExpertI do hope you’ll join me on Thursday, August 4, 2011 as I take over YourTango’s Facebook page. I’ll be answering your questions about dating, love and romance in a Web 2.0 World as well as talking about my most recent article, Is Flirting on Twitter and Facebook Considered Cheating?

You can RSVP here to the invitation on Facebook. The online chat will be taking place from 2pm – 3pm Eastern Time.

Send us your questions in advance and get ready for an hour of FREE dating and relationship advice, as well as learning the dos and don’ts for online dating success. Now’s the time to ask the cyber dating expert anything! See you there!


Dating Advice: When to Change Your Facebook Relationship Status

Thinking of changing your Facebook status to “In a Relationship?” Before you go pushing the update button, watch YourTango’s He Said, She Said video series, where I’m talking with Charles J. Orlando, author of The Problem with Women is Men about this hot topic.

Top 10 of 2010 – Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert Radio Show

Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert Radio Show

Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert

To remember 2010, we are pleased to share the best and highest rated show segments on Ask the Cyberdating Expert Radio Show during the calendar year.

All I can say is WOW! It’s been an amazing year filled with dating advice to help you while looking for love online. Over 37,000 loyal fans listened to the program, where we talked about dating, love and romance in a Web 2.0 World.

Here’s our Top 10 list for the year for your listening pleasure.

1. The Frisky – Amelia McDonnell-Parry, editor-in-chief

2. Cupid’s Coach – Julie Ferman, founder

3. Liar Liar List – Beth Greenfield, founder

4. David Wygant – Dating Expert

5. Your Tango – Tom Miller, General Manager and columnist, Tomfoolery

6. OkCupid – Sam Yagan, CEO

7. – Whitney Casey, Relationship Insider

8. Senior People Meet – Dr. Terri L. Ohrbuch, The Love Doctor

9. People Media – Josh Meyers

10. Weopia – Dave Wilkie

The 2010 year also included well respected relationship authors and dating experts Andrea Syrtash, Lori Gottlieb, Dr. Carole Lieberman, Alix Strauss, Marie Forleo, Tina Tessina, Debra Berndt, Kristen McGuinness, Paige Parker, Dr. Diana Kirschner, Deb and Liv from Flirtexting, Cougar Expert Lucia, Carrie Seim, and Don’t Date Him Girl’s Tasha Cuningham.

We featured online dating sites and dating advice sites including Cosmopolitan – Ky Henderson, eLove – Paul Falzone, ?eHarmony – Dr. Gian Gonzaga,??The Wing Girls – Jet and Star, Brainiac Dating – Lawrence Chernin, ?Cupidtino – Mel Sampat, Perfect Match – Dr. Pepper Schwartz, Speed Date – Dan Abelon, Single Edition – Sherri Langburt, True – Herb Vest, Scientific Match – Eric Holzle, Opposites Connect – Larry Wilson, Meetcha – Jeff Taylor, and SKOUT Mobile Dating – Christian Wiklund.

A special mention goes to this year’s launch of the new digital dating cards with Lori Cheek from Cheekd and Rachel DeAlto from FlipMe Dating. It was an honor to feature Harvard Professor Michael I. Norton on the subject of virtual dating.

All of the programs can be heard at

We’ll resume again in 2011 and look forward to hearing more about dating, love and romance in a Web 2.0 World.

Show segments:

1. The Frisky

2. Cupid’s Coach

3. Liar Liar List

4. David Wygant

5. YourTango

6. OkCupid


8. Senior People Meet

9. People Media

10. Weopia

Your Tango 31-Day Challenge

Your Tango 5 Steps to Being a Sexier New YouOne of my favorite dating advice and lifestyle sites, Your Tango is having a challenge that you must sign up for. Their 31-Days to a Better Sex Life will feature some of the top relationship and dating advice experts in the world.

It’s an honor to be included in this list of dating experts along with John Grey from Venus and Mars fame, my friend and author Dr. Diana Kirschner, and Dr. Ava Cadell.

My article, 5 Steps to Being a Sexier New You appeared on day 3 of the 31-day challenge. So while you’re waiting for that perfect online date to appear in your Inbox, check out my article and all of the other awesome advice during the month of October and practice these simples steps. I look forward to hearing your comments and progress.

Are you single and still sleeping in your flannel pajamas while waiting for Mr. Right to sweep you off your feet? Throw away the Cinderella dreams along with your outdated nightie and get ready to learn the art of flirting before you walk out the door for the evening.

Often, when you aren?t in a relationship, you don?t dress as if your dream guy was picking you up for dinner. Let?s face it. It?s easy to get lazy and end up in a rut. You can?t remember your last kiss. You?ve gained a few pounds since your last relationship. You’ve started to wear less makeup. Your favorite dress never made it to the dry cleaner and still has a spot on the side from the night you spilled red wine on it. The last time you got waxed was when someone detailed your car a year ago.

Sound familiar? My advice is very simple. Start creating rituals at home that will prepare you to feel great about yourself. You can create a sexier new you before having a crush on that someone special. You?ll be surprised at how you?ll start attracting men. Won?t it be fun when suddenly you can pick and choose?

Here?s my step-by-step guide to get in the mood for love without even having to leave the house most of the time. Don?t worry, love will find you when the time is right.

Step 1. Toss away a few pieces of old lingerie that?s cluttering your bureau. Do this right away. It?s time to erase the memories of your past passionate affairs. Out with the old, and in with the new.

Step 2. Invest in one new piece of lingerie. Find a great sale at Victoria?s Secret or go online and select one that fits within your budget. Pick out your favorite color. Think of your new purchase as your favorite little black dress. Before you go imagining wearing it with your new dream guy someday, wear it for yourself first. For now, you?ll be wearing this to sleep at night at least once a week. You?re on your way to a sexier new you.

Step 3. Take a look at your makeup drawer. When was the last time you invested in a simple lip-gloss? Toss away the old makeup and head over to your local department store. Walk around the cosmetics department and find a comfy stool to sit on. Get ready for a free makeover. Imagine yourself going on a date night, while your makeup is being professionally applied. The date night is with your number one fan, yourself. Make sure to get a list of the colors and pick up one item. My suggestion is to replace your outdated lip-gloss with a new color for the season. There?s something very sexy about luscious lips and it?s time your lips are made for kissing.

Step 4. Back at the ranch, it?s time to set the scene in your romantic bedroom. Put away the photos of your family and friends in your bedroom. Move your computer to another room in the house. You?ll be creating a romantic atmosphere and will leave the boardroom behind. Light some candles. Put on some relaxing music, and grab some massage oil. There?s no need to purchase Kama Sutra oils if you don?t have them handy. Baby oil will work just fine. Give yourself a well-deserved foot massage and then curl up with a romance novel.

Step 5. On the following week, change the ritual slightly and if you have a bathtub in your home or apartment, take a bubble bath. Light your candles and have the music going in the background. Put on your new sexy signature piece of lingerie afterward and fall asleep in dreamland. You?ll wake up every morning and start to feel sexier just from creating these rituals.

Now, go out in public and smile at everyone you meet. It?s time to practice the art of flirting. I?ve been flirting since my first crush when I was four years old. It never goes out of style. You?ll appear happier, more confident, more approachable, and there is nothing sexier than a confident woman to attract a quality man. You?ll walk into a room and people will wonder, ?Who?s that girl??

Personally, I have practiced these steps and I know they do work. With very little investment, other than one piece of new lingerie and a lip-gloss, you will notice a shift in your attitude. I can?t tell you how many times I have felt better going to sleep just by lighting a few candles and reading an uplifting book or story, and falling asleep wearing my signature piece of lingerie. You?re now on your way to creating a sexier new you!

Click here for the full article on Your Tango>>>

Experiencing – Love, Dating and Romance in the Real Time Web

It was an honor to be on the stage at the 92nd Street Y in New York City with my co-panelist, Tom Miller from Your Tango. We talked about dating, love and romance in a Web 2.0 World, how the Your Tango community helps singles and couples with their advice and columns, and answered some questions from the audience about online dating sites and profiles. Only a volcano could prevent Scot McKay from joining us on the stage.

After our panel, I signed copies of my book, The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online in the Schmooze lounge while dishing out some dating advice.

Thank you Jeff Pulver for having us speak at the first-ever dating panel at the 140 Characters Conference and to those who supported us during our presentation. I hope you take the time to view some of the other sessions. It was an incredible gathering of people who took the time to share their stories and passions in an authentic way.

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Welcome to New York – Dating Advice in a Web 2.0 World

I’m filled with excitement as I prepare for the first-ever dating panel at the 140 Characters Conference in New York, which will be held at the 92nd Street Y. Conference organizer and creator Jeff Pulver has been working around the clock to make this the best social media event ever. There will be over 180 people speaking in 76 sessions on one stage.

On the flight from Los Angeles to New York, I had the chance to read part of Andrea Syrtash’s new book, He’s Just Not Your Type (And That’s A Good Thing) (Rodale) due out next week. Andrea will be a panelist in Wednesday, April 20th at 11:30am and will be signing copies of her book in the Schmooze Lounge from 12:00pm – 1:00pm in advance of it’s release, so don’t miss it. She’ll also be the featured guest on Saturday on Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert Radio Show at 1:00pm/Eastern Time.

I’m looking forward to seeing my co-panelist Tom Miller, General Manager of Your Tango. Our panel: Experiencing: Love, Dating and Romance in the Real-Time web is scheduled for 8:45am on Wednesday, April 21, 2010. I promise you it will be worth getting up early for. I’ll be talking about the changes in online dating since I created my first Internet dating profile 16 years ago and the effects of the real-time web in how we date and relate. I’ll toss in some dating advice, success couples, and where I believe we are heading with mobile dating and more.

After our panel, I will be signing copies of my book The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online in the Schmooze Lounge from 10:00am-10:45am. I hope to see you there!

Other authors who will be signing copies of their books include: John Kremer, Hank Wasiak, Melinda Emerson, Jonathan Maberry, Michael Tasner.

For a complete schedule of times visit the 140 Conference site.

If you can’t make it to the event, it will be streamed live on UStream at The hashtag for the event is #140conf.

The excitement will continue past the 140 Conference. On Thursday, I will be a guest on WPIX TV, channel 11 in New York in a segment with Tamsen Fadal. I will be talking about Cyber Dating Safety at 6:45am. I hope you tune in to watch.

On Thursday, several of the 140 Conference speakers will be attending the Broadway performance of Kelsey Grammer, now starring as Georges in the revival of?La Cage aux Folles and we’ll be going back stage afterwards.

If this isn’t enough excitement, I’ll be back in New York again in May for Book Expo America where I will be speaking at the New York Public Library on May 25, 2010 and signing books at BEA -10 on May 26, 2010.

If you haven’t signed up yet for the 140 Conference, visit their site for tickets. Two-day passes are SOLD OUT, but you can still attend on Tuesday. For media inquiries visit

Countdown to the 140 Characters Conference

The 140 Characters Conference in New York is only one week away. We are counting down the days and I’m excited to be participating as a character in the first-ever dating panel: Experiencing Love, Dating, and Romance in the Real-Time Web. Make sure to mark your calendars for April 21, 2010 at 8:45am. I’ll be sharing the stage with Your Tango’s Tom Miller, @TomFooleryTM and dating expert @ScotMckay.

The event will be streamed for those who can’t make it. It is shaping up to be the largest gathering in the world of people interested in the effects of the real-time Internet on both business and “we” the people.?I’ll be in New York all week meeting with editors, publishers, and broadcasters and will keep you posted on my media schedule and will be tweeting live from the event.

If you are in the New York City area, tickets are still available for $140 at

Jeff Pulver has been working night and day to make this a memorable event. Other speakers include Today Show’s Ann Curry, Wine TV’s Gary Vaynerchuk, California Secretary of State Debra Bowen, Donny Deutsch, John Kremer, Ivanka Trump, MC Hammer and more. For a complete list of speakers visit

Besides meeting my twitter friends in real life, I’m delighted to announce that I will be signing copies of my book, The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online in the schmooze lounge on Wednesday, April 21st from 10:00am-10:45am.

It’s going to be an exciting time for those in the social media world. I look forward to seeing you there.

Your Tango – These Lips are Made for Kissing

There’s nothing like the anticipation of the first kiss with someone you just started dating. Your first kiss can set off fireworks and start the oxytocin flowing in your body, if its the kind of kiss that makes you want more.

Learn how to turn a wintertime kiss into a night to remember with my 10 tips.

Read full article?on YourTango

Tom Miller and Your Tango on Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert Radio Show

Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert

Listen to Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert Radio Show with my featured guest Tom Miller– the voice behind Tomfoolery on

Learn about Your Tango – a community for love, sex, dating and relationship advice.

Find out what Tom thinks about Internet dating including:

  • Should women pursuing men online
  • When to take down your online dating profile
  • The BIG ultimatum
  • Changing your Facebook status
  • Breaking up via text messaging.

You’ll hear this and more about dating, love and romance in a Web 2.0 world on Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert Radio Show with Julie Spira.

Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert Radio Show with Your Tango

Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert

Join Cyber-Dating Expert Julie Spira on Saturday, January 16, 2010 for a very special edition of Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert Radio Show featuring’s Tom Miller, better known as Tomfoolery. We’ll be dishing out dating advice and answering your questions about love, dating, and romance in a Web 2.0 World.

If you haven’t visited YourTango, they are a digital media company dedicated to love and relationships. YourTango couples personal, thought-provoking text and video content with a community of highly-engaged users.

Tom Miller is YourTango’s go-to for guy-wisdom. His column, Tomfoolery, covers cultural events, gender issues, silly celebrities, manly opinion and weird happenings. We’ll be talking about everything from Facebook to the 3-date rule to breaking up gently and everything in between. You’ll hear the man’s opinion on dating advice.

Call in with your questions at 646-929-0012 at 2pm/eastern time, 12pm/central time, 11am pacific time at 646-929-0012.