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A Pat Allen Girl



Julie Spira & Dr. Pat Allen
Julie Spira & Dr. Pat Allen


I often refer to myself as a “Dr. Pat Allen” girl. Those who fall into that category know exactly what I mean as well as the best-selling author of Getting to ‘I Do’
herself who is a family and relationship therapist.

For over fifteen years, Dr. Pat Allen has been leading a Monday evening group in Los Angeles and now also has a weekly Wednesday evening group in Newport Beach, CA. I have attended these sessions and brought my girlfriends when they were in a relationship crisis, so they could go on stage and have a quick dose of the famed Dr. Pat Allen.

Does her theory on relationships work? You bet. I have a close girlfriend who has been happily married for fifteen years and still credits her success to attending Dr. Pat Allen’s Monday night lectures. Another friend who was involved with a married man who kept hoping he would become available went on stage at a Dr. Pat Allen lecture, and shortly there after was able to dump the unavailable man. She recently celebrated her ten year wedding anniversary and now has two beautiful children.

Besides the weekly lectures, Dr. Pat Allen has a monthly lecture called “The Art of Loving” in Century City. There are four different topics, and yes, I have attended them all.

The highlight for me in being a true “Dr. Pat Allen Girl” was when I attended her Weekend Retreat last year at Aldersgate in Pacific Palisades, CA. I checked into this weekend intensive with the goal of expediting the “oxytocin detox” process I was going through from a previous relationship which had ended. With a one-on-one intensive that went into the wee hours of the morning, I went home enriched, and no longer longed for the beau who had disappeared.

The good news for singles and couples, is that Dr. Pat Allen will be doing this annual Weekend Retreat again on October 2-4, 2009. The retreat is intended for all singles and couples who are open to learning and she will cover the physical and emotional aspects of being a spiritual person. In this retreat, You will learn how to ask for what you want and how to say “no” to what you don’t want as well as learning about how to analyze your dreams.

I believe in personal growth so we can be the best we can to attract the best love we can. Reverend Michael Beckwith from The Secret calls Pat??”A?rare gift for our society.” Both Marianne Williamson and John Grey have been influenced by Pat Allen.?Those who are fortunate enough to attend her retreat will be forever enriched.

For more information, go to or call 310-390-4767.

Julie Spira is America's Top Online Dating Expert. She's an award-winning dating coach who's been helping singles find love online for 25+ years. Follow @JulieSpira on IG.

2 thoughts on “A Pat Allen Girl”

  1. Pat Allen was the guru of our marriage — which lasted 15 years until he died this past July ({sob} at only 60). We always said she saved our marriage before it ever began! Pat was able to get through my “death-grip” on my view of reality (i was a very masculine-acting woman) and help me become feminine again (which we both really wanted me to be!).

    We had three private sessions with her over the years (including the one before we married that allowed us to marry and not break up!). Michael and I attended her couple’s weekend, I attended her women’s weekend and a couple of her short classes; and whenever we were able to get to LA (from Georgia!), Michael would schedule our trips over a Monday night, so I could go to Pat’s public session — for a ‘booster shot” — from which I — and WE — always benefited!

    Visualize me bowing in deep gratitude towards PAT ALLEN!

  2. Thank you for sharing your very personal story. I’ve been recommending Dr. Pat Allen’s Monday night seminars to my coaching clients and have given numerous copies of her book, “Getting to I Do” as gifts for single women.

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