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Ask the Cyber Dating Expert – Advice for the Newly Divorced


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I recently met a young woman whose divorce papers were final last week. She needed some dating advice as to how to start over post-divorce. With the new year, she should be celebrating and getting ready for a new beginning. At 27, she is considering online dating for the very first time. She would like to get married and have children, but thought the stigma of saying she was divorced in her 20s would scare the men away.

She asked, “Is it too soon to start dating again?” “Will someone want to have a relationship with a divorced woman in her 20s.” “Should I say I’m single on my profile as my marriage was brief?”

“Where do I begin?”

Newly Single – Los Angeles

Dear Newly Single,

It’s natural to feel insecure when the dream of your perfect marriage was shattered.

What are you waiting for? ?It’s time to hop back on that cyber-dating saddle. With the divorce rates above 50% in the state of California, you are in the majority.You need to be authentic in your online dating profile and say you are divorced and post some terrific photos. ?It’s a new year and time for a new beginning. Since you want to have a family, I suggest you state in your profile that you want to get married and have children. Don’t worry about scaring away men who aren’t interested in marriage. They will be doing you a favor by not responding to you.

Good luck with your search.

Julie Spira

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2 Responses to “Ask the Cyber Dating Expert – Advice for the Newly Divorced”

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