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Dating Advice at the 140 Characters Conference


140 Conference

It was an honor to once again take the stage at the 140 Characters Conference to talk about dating, love, and romance in the real time web. Along with some of my favorite social media friends, we united as we shared our hearts and souls, ?with not just the attendees in Hollywood, but with the rest of the world as the event was streamed live for others to enjoy.

On day one of the tw0-day event, 140 founder and curator,?Jeff Pulver welcomed everyone to the Music Box Theatre on Hollywood Boulevard. We learned about social media and education, heard from singer Michele Branch, became immersed in real-time news gathering trends where Twitter is 30-minutes ahead of the Associated Press, and enjoyed a live performance from Andy Grammer.

On day two, I attended the Book Author’s Panel led by Imal Wagner and the Writers Panel with Debra Eckerling from Write On Online. Catching up with Chamillionaire was once again a treat.

Julie Spira and Jason Pollock

Jason Pollock and Julie Spira at 140 Conference

My presentation was held in the afternoon. ?I was introduced by Jason Pollock,?who shared some of his online dating experiences from many years ago on JDate prior to going on stage. I?spoke to the crowd about the importance of authenticity in your online dating profile.

“Everyone wants to love and be loved,” I said. ?I added, “Love never goes out of style and yet technology changes on a daily basis. It’s my goal to marry love and technology to help singles find love online.”

I shared my personal story about going from a popular rock-and-roll DJ to an Internet executive, while in the middle I sadly had my heart broken. I created my first online dating profile over 16 years ago to heal my wounds during the days of the slow dial up connection, where I’d receive a hefty $300 monthly bill while looking for love online. ?There were no role models, no dating coaches, and and eHarmony didn’t exist. Most of the hands were raised in the room when I asked, just how many of you in the room have tried online dating? The majority ruled. From dial-up to mobile dating, I shared as much as I could with the audience and poured out my heart and soul.

The other dating advice I shared included:

*Tell your own age – Think about it. Would you really want your date to lie to you? It’s time we feel comfortable with our age, weight and who we are in the world.

*There is nothing more powerful than the Facebook status relationship change – I’ve said it before, but when you see the little red heart on your friends Facebook updates, just how curious are you about who their new beau is or why it’s complicated? We just feel the need to know. Personally, I don’t want to watch someone’s relationship status change from “Single” to “In a Relationship” to “It’s Complicated” to back to “Single.” Unless you’re planning a wedding, we don’t really want to share your drama.

* Be specific. If you want to get married, say so. Don’t worry about chasing those away who aren’t interested in a commitment.

* Try a niche online dating site. Several recommended sites I mentioned were Brainiac Dating for those with a high I.Q., Meetcha for the baby boomers, and Online Booty Call for the causal daters looking to hook up.

* Mobile Dating. I recently published a list of some of the Top mobile dating apps for you to enjoy.

I shared some of the Cyber Love Story of the Week success stories with the group and encouraged them to join in on the conversation at There is someone for everyone and I encourage you with enthusiasm on your cyberdating journey.

Thank you to Jeff Pulver for another incredible 140 Conference in Los Angeles and for my friends and supporters who cheered me on. I am grateful, honored, and appreciative of the support from my friends and colleagues on Twitter, Facebook, and in real life. I truly hope that I can make a difference in yours.


2 Responses to “Dating Advice at the 140 Characters Conference”

  1. Linda Sherman on October 8th, 2010 11:15 pm

    You did a great job Julie! I’m glad I could catch your presentation at 140conf.

  2. Julie Spira on October 9th, 2010 11:50 am

    Thank you Linda. I’m glad you were able to attend the session on Dating, Love and Romance in the Real Time Web. I think the theme was about authenticity, which transfers to all types of relationships including friendship, business as well as matters of the heart.

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