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Dating Advice – The Married Man Magnet

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Spring fever is here and my Inbox is filling up with questions from frustrated singles looking for love both online and offline. What happens when you are only attracting married men? Read my dating advice for Sandra who is newly single.

Dear Julie

My boyfriend and I broke up a year ago. We had been together for 6 years and I thought he was “the one.”
He has moved on and is now living with a new woman. I understand that the relationship is truly over.

However, now that I am single, I seem to be attracting married men. At parties, the married men seem to gravitate towards men. I signed up for an online dating service and met two men who were separated, and weren’t really available.

What am I doing wrong? Please help.


Dear Sandra,

Thank you for your email. It’s not uncommon for a man to move on quickly when a relationship ends. The fact that you are not pining or jealous that your ex is in a relationship, while you are not, is a good sign that you are healing and moving forward with your life.

Now let’s get to the heart of the matter here. You have become a married-man magnet. Perhaps you are more comfortable talking to unavailable men offline as you know you won’t get rejected. The relationship can’t go anywhere. Keep in mind this is only a friendship, and probably an acquaintance at best.

The truth is, you probably are not ready for a new relationship yet. I suggest you take it slow and make the most of your online dating site. Don’t respond to men whose profiles say “separated.” Ask more questions before you get to a first date.? When you become an available woman, you’ll become a man magnet (without the married).

Keep me posted and best of luck with your search.

Julie Spira

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One Response to “Dating Advice – The Married Man Magnet”

  1. Sable on June 25th, 2011 2:35 pm

    Great post with lots of important stuff.

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