Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert
I recently received an email from a girl who was happily dating a few guys that she met online. She suddenly needed some dating advice. With New Year’s Eve around the corner, she found herself dateless. As the holidays got closer, the gentlemen seemed to disappear and started calling less frequently.
Read my response. If this has happened to you as well, feel free to comment and share your experience.
Dear Julie,
I recently started dating a few nice men where we have had about 3 or 4 dates that have gone well. I was sure that one of them would have asked me out for New Year’s. It’s less than a week away and they all seem to have disappeared. What should I do?
~ Renee
Dear Renee,
The holidays put too much pressure on a brand new relationship, or in your case just on daters in general. Some people would actually prefer to be alone rather than having that forced kiss at midnight on New Year’s Eve. Some men fear being rejected and would rather not ask the woman out if they aren’t dating exclusively or if the relationship is still too new.
My suggestion is to do nothing. Some go on vacation during the holidays and others just don’t want to have a date with pressure. Find some friends to spend the evening with, attend a party if you can, or simply go to the movies. Waiting around for a date may only make you feel worse. If someone asks you out at the last minute, you just may already be booked. Then again, you just might meet someone new at a party who will become number one on your date card.
~ Julie Spira
Julie Spira is America’s Top Online Dating Expert and Digital Matchmaker. She’s the CEO of Cyber-Dating Expert and has been coaching singles on finding love online for over 20 years with her Irresistible Profiles dating coaching programs.
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Julie Spira is the Digital Matchmaker® and America's Top Online Dating Expert. She's an award-winning certified dating coach who's been helping singles find their perfect match for over three decades. Follow @JulieSpira on IG and @digitalmatchmaker on TikTok.