Is Breaking Up Really Hard to Do? : Cyber Dating Expert
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Is Breaking Up Really Hard to Do?

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Breaking upBreaking up. It happens every day. When it happens in Hollywood, it’s national news. Privacy for celebrities isn’t the only concern for couples now a days. There was even a movie called The Break-Up with Jennifer Aniston and Vince Vaughan a few years ago.

Modern technology has created a common trend of breaking up in a text message or an email. Even a voicemail break-up is becoming almost as obsolete as the old fashioned way, in person.

I was recently a guest on 700-WLW in Cincinnati with Eddie Fingers and Tracy Jones. We were talking about the recent break up of Jessica Simpson by Tony Romo the day before her 29th birthday. All I could say was, “OUCH!”

The pressure of holidays keeps many relationships together longer than they really should last. It’s the slow F-A-D-E. After all, who want’s to be home alone on New Year’s Eve or on Valentine’s Day?

So, why is it that every week I hear about a break-up in a text message? Why would someone dump their fiance in an email or in a voicemail? The easiest way according to the afternoon drive team at WLW is to do the fade away, and disappear and go POOF! This is called “ghosting” in the dating world, but is it right? How many people really have the courage to end a relationship amicably in person? Unfortunately, not enough according to what I am hearing in the singles scene.

So go ahead and say you would like to be friends, even if you don’t mean it to avoid getting slapped in the face. But please, don’t break up with your significant other in a text message or an email, especially right before a birthday, anniversary or Valentine’s Day. And if you do select the electronic way to deliver your message, don’t be upset when it appears all over the public Internet, on Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, and in an email blast. It’s the simple revenge a jilted girlfriend or boyfriend may end up doing if they are feeling bitter about the way you handled it.

Julie Spira is America’s Top Online Dating Expert and the author of The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online. Visit her at and follow @JulieSpira on Twitter.


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