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5 Texting Tips to Help Improve Your Relationship


Texting Tips

Digital love — Should texting be a part of your dating life?

According to a Rice University study, both men and women are sending text messages to their S.O.s.

In a recent article on Prevention.com, I shared tips and texting advice to help spice up your love life, along with a few precautions to make sure you don?t end up in the digital doghouse.

1. DON’T overdo it. Sending a simple happy face to your loved one can be a fun and flirty way to brighten up their day, but the overuse of emoticons reduces the effectiveness. In other words, if every message you send is punctuated with a smile or a wink, your partner will find it harder to figure out what you’re really feeling. (And off-topic but related: The overuse of exclamation marks, especially by men, is a turn-off.)

2. DO embrace the quick hello. I?m a big fan of sending a good morning text to your sweetheart. It never hurts to add ‘xoxo’ at the end to put a smile on his face.

3. DON’T send explicit photos. Even if you haven’t been a teenager for decades, sending naked photos via texting can still come back to haunt you. This is the biggest mistake women make. I can’t stress enough that anything you send digitally can and will be shared by others.

4. DO use it for quick updates. Texting is tailor-made for confirming plans or giving a status update to someone who’s waiting on you. If you’re running late for a date or appointment, you should always send a text to let the other party know.

5. DON’T text angry, ever. The problem with relying on text messages is you can?t hear the sound of someone’s voice. A text message sent in jest may be received as hurtful, and cause a fight. If you find a text exchange veering into argument territory, that’s the time to switch over to a phone call or talking in person. Do sleep on it. Just because you can send a text doesn’t mean you should especially if it concerns your relationship. If you have to get something off your chest, send it to yourself (and only to yourself!) in an email and sleep on it. You might feel differently about it in the morning.

Read full article at PreventionMagazine.com

Julie Spira is an online dating and netiquette expert. She?s the author of The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online and The Rules of Netiquette: How to Mind Your Manners on the Web.

For more dating and relationship advice follow @JulieSpira on Twitter and at Facebook.com/CyberDatingExpert.

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3 Responses to “5 Texting Tips to Help Improve Your Relationship”

  1. Camille on November 1st, 2012 11:16 am

    Awesome list. I especially like advice number 5: don’t text when you’re angry. That’s so true! Text messages can really get lost in translation- emoticons can only go so far. And sometimes an innocent text message can lead to a fight or worse, a breakup!

    Good advice, Julie thanks!

  2. Joshua Pompey on November 1st, 2012 4:29 pm

    Angry texting is definitely a big one, and dangerous as well. Too many people read too much into text messages. Play it cool and don’t over react. And very true with the emoticons. Over doing this is never good, as they will not only lose their effect, but will probably annoy a guy after a while. Men want to be rewarded with them, it makes us feel good. But not if its done every five seconds.

  3. J on June 29th, 2015 10:43 pm

    I very much wish I would have read this weeks ago….thanks for the advice…it is greatly appreciated.

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