There’s no good time to break up with your partner. However, there are some SACRED days that one should respect when it comes to matters of the heart.
These days include Christmas, New Year’s, Birthdays, and Valentine’s Day.
Many of us remember when Jessica Simpson got dumped by football star Tony Romo the day before her birthday bash. Romo didn’t want to be the “Ken” in her “Ken and Barbie”-themed party.
Fortunately, they’ve both moved on, and it’s a reminder that breakups are in a peak period leading up to Valentine’s Day.
And so the story goes in our featured Peril of the Week, where a handsome gentleman was courting a woman he met online. He told her he wanted to be in a romantic relationship with her. He was smitten.
Every day, he called and told her she was beautiful and always made plans for future dates. Their relationship was on the right track. He said he wanted to be exclusive and defined the relationship.
Since he said he wasn’t dating anyone else, she expected to be together on Valentine’s Day.
Suddenly, one week before Valentine’s Day, he canceled their plans for the weekend without an excuse. He rescheduled for the following week, the week of February 14th.
Then, out of nowhere, she received an email breaking up with her just a few days before Valentine’s Day, basically dumping her.
His email said, “As for us, I think we are in the friend zone, and I am obviously not the man for you. I’ll spare you all the boilerplate of what a wonderful person you are (although it’s true), but the simple reality is that I am not the man who will provide you with happiness, joy, and contentment for the balance of your long and very meaningful life. What you’re looking for, I cannot provide. I’m sorry, but I’m very attracted to you.”
Was it a polite pre-Valentine’s breakup? Sure. He could have ghosted her and disappeared. At the end of the day, he didn’t want her to be his Valentine. Happiness, joy, and contentment forever? After a few dates, the word forever should not have been in his vocabulary.
Was it the pressure of the Valentine’s Day? Perhaps.
At the end of the digital day, she assumed he had found another Valentine and wasn’t that into her after all.
Julie Spira is the Digital Matchmaker® and America's Top Online Dating Expert. She's an award-winning certified dating coach who's been helping singles find their perfect match for over three decades. Follow @JulieSpira on IG and @digitalmatchmaker on TikTok.