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They’re Engaged! – Steven and Melissa

They're Engaged - Cyber Dating ExpertMeet Steven and Melissa who met offline, but quickly fell in love and started seeing each other almost every day. After a month and a half of dating, Melissa ended their relationship, thinking he might not be the right person to be a father figure for her three children. Steven was heartbroken.

To make matters worse, Melissa ghosted Steven and stopped returning his calls and texts, unfriended him on Facebook and went her own way.

Steven was convinced that she was ‘the one’ and reached out to us while looking for a dating coach and expert to help get his girlfriend back. While no one can wave a magic wand and make someone return to their ex, we knew we could take a stab at it and came up with a strategy in our Irresistible Dating Coaching program for Steven to give it one last try.

Flash forward three months and the couple got back together and Steven proposed marriage to Melissa. Melissa said YES!

We are so thrilled to have helped this couple reunite after the ghosting episode and they are excited about their future together.

In Steven’s words, “Everything is wonderful and I want to thank you for everything. We’re madly in love and I couldn’t be happier.”

Congratulations to Steven and Melissa on your engagement. We wish you much love and joy in this new chapter of your life.

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Cyber Love Story – Clara and Sandy

Cyber Love Story - Clara and SandyMeet Clara and Sandy our Cyber Love Story featured couple who met on Match and fell in love.

When Clara joined Match, she was only on the site for about two months when she got matched with Sandy.

Both Clara and Sandy had lost their spouses, so they had that in common.  Clara was single for eleven years and was ready to meet a man who “got her” and accepted her for who she was.

Sandy had lost his wife and was also looking for a companion to go to dinner and movies with. He selected Clara and what caught his eye, were both her hot legs and her Hungarian background.

The two spoke by phone briefly and then the emails started going back-and-forth.

When Sandy went on vacation, Clara figured he’d forget about her, but she was wrong.

Their first date in downtown Los Angeles was very romantic. After dinner, Clara, who’s an artist, invited Sandy to view her etchings in her studio.

The two dated for two weeks and saw each other every night. After two months Sandy moved in, well as Clara says, “he just stayed and never left.”

The two decided to take a big trip to Rome, Florence and Milan, Italy which tested their relationship.

On their one year anniversary together, Sandy proposed at one of their favorite Italian restaurants. He said he wanted to spend the rest of his life with Clara.

Congratulations to Clara and Sandy who have found another chance at love with the help of Match.

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Julie Spira is America’s Top Online Dating Expert and Digital Matchmaker. She was an early adopter of Internet dating and has been helping singles find love online for over 20 years. Julie’s the author of the bestseller, The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online, newly revised on Kindle and Audible.

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Tinder Love Story – Steph and Mark

Tinder Love StoryMeet Steph and Mark who found love on Tinder.

About six month’s after Steph’s divorce was final, she decided to sign up for Match.  She realized that dating via the night scene was not working for her, so after a friend had told her she joined Match, Steph followed suit.

After reading the Cyber-Dating Expert blog, Steph decided it was time to give Tinder a try.

Here’s her Tinder love story, in her words.

I met many wonderful men who were not for me.  I had a few minor heartaches as I learned more about myself and what I thought I needed.  By the time October rolled around, I was feeling less than positive about all dating. I was going through the motions of keeping up my profile, answering emails, etc.  I  pushed back on every inquiry.

Related: These Jobs Get the Most Right Swipes on Tinder

Late October 5, 2015, I swiped right and matched with Mark.  At 10:45 am, October 6th, I made a move to try to weed this one out:

Mark was so nice and returned my Boston attitude with kindness.  So I decided to give this a shot.  We quickly moved to phone texting and talking. Mark asked me to go to dinner.  On Sunday, October 11th, we met in Buckhead. He pulled up on a busy street.  I looked in his car and thought, “oh boy, I am in trouble!”

Mark, newly divorced after 25 years, joined Tinder because of the safety of “virtual” vetting and the seemingly abundant options on that app in this area.  On paper, Mark and I didn’t match.  I thought I needed a city guy with a like attitude who can handle me.  He never considered  a “Yankee” as a partner.

Related: Matt and Alee: They Met on Tinder

On our own, we may have rejected the thought of dating each other.  Through Tinder, we learned more about ourselves and what is truly important in our lives.  We have both come to understand that the similarities we share in humor, faith, family values, mutual support and reciprocity are what drives our desire to meld our worlds, not our ethnicity or where we were born.

I couldn’t be happier to be proven wrong by a dating app. The last five months have been a joy learning to love again.  We both look forward to the days to come, and we are grateful for the “right swipe.”

Congratulations to Steph and Mark who prove you can find love on Tinder by Swiping Right.

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Julie Spira is America’s Top Online Dating and Mobile Dating Expert. She’s been coaching singles on finding love online for over 20 years. Find out how Irresistible Coaching can help you find your dream date.

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Cyber Love Story – Dana and Matan

Jfixx - Cyber Love StoryMeet Matan and Dana who met on the new mobile app Jfiix, a dating app for Jewish singles, created by the original founder of JDate, Joe Shapira.

When Matan met Dana, he had never even used a traditional dating service. His first experience looking for love online was using the Jfiix mobile app.

As soon as he got on the app, he noticed that he suddenly got more dates than ever.

“Pretty fast, I found the one,” said Matan.

The couple got married less than one year after their first date.

Congratulations to Matan and Dana who found love using one of the newest mobile apps catering to Jewish singles.

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Cyber Love Story – Courtney and Jeremy

Courtney and JeremyMeet Courtney and Jeremy our featured Cyber Love Story couple who found love on eHarmony.  They recently got married in a fairytale wedding, followed by a romantic honeymoon in the Caribbean. It was Courtney’s goal to find someone special to marry and I promised her, she’d find the love of her life. I couldn’t be happier with her romantic journey.

Here are Courtney’s words.

I met Jeremy three months into my 6-month subscription on eHarmony. He recently told me that we had been matched with each other months before we went out and that he was this close to deleting all his current matches when he saw my picture. We had only emailed a few times about dates to meet up for a drink so I didn’t know much about him. I actually couldn’t remember if his name was Jeremy or Jason so I did a panicked email search before he arrived. Thankfully I got his name just before he came through the door at the downtown bar/restaurant I picked.

We ended up talking for a good two hours and he walked with me while we looked for a taxi. It was a great first date- the best first date I had been on in a long time, probably ever. I was cautiously optimistic because he was hard to read. The next day while telling two close friends how funny and good looking he was, I went to check my email and there was a funny message from him! I was thrilled. I might have done a little happy dance.

We met for dinner and then drinks the next week and I went home to LA for a week-long visit the next day. He emailed me mid-week and we immediately made plans to see each other when I returned. From that point on we started dating regularly and finally months later, we started introducing each other to our friends.

It was slow and steady and looking back it was perfect. I’m very emotional and dramatic while Jeremy is more quiet and analytical. He brings out my more practical side and I am constantly laughing at his dry humor. I think we are a perfect match.

Last month we got married after a six-month engagement. The engagement was the only part of our relationship that went quickly! Now we are getting ready to spend our first holiday season together. For the last two years I’ve gone to LA and he’s gone to his parents’ home in New Jersey. Next week we will celebrate our first Thanksgiving together with his family (our puggle Wallis is coming with us to New Jersey) and then we’re spending Christmas week in New York with my parents, brother and sister in-law, and their new baby girl- our first niece!

Thank you Julie for your wisdom and advice. I would not be marrying this wonderful guy if I didn’t follow your Playbook!

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Julie Spira is America’s Top Online Dating Expert and Digital Matchmaker. She’s been helping singles find love online for over 20 years. Find out how Irresistible Coaching can help you find your dream date.  Follow @JulieSpira for dating advice and sign up for the free Weekly Flirt newsletter.

Cyber Love Story, Matt and Allee – They Met on Tinder

Cyber Love Story - Matt and AlleeMeet Matt and Allee who met on Tinder. Read, in Matt’s words, about their cyber love story and how “Swiping Right” led to his dream girl.

MATT: I met my girlfriend on Tinder.

Now, I know what you’re probably thinking. ‘Wow, that relationship must be solid if you met on a site like Tinder.’ Frankly, I don’t blame you. Up until about six months ago, I would have responded the exact same way. But Allee and I are living proof that you can find love on Tinder.

Before signing up in January of this year, I had never used any online dating sites, so you can probably imagine my skepticism. I had moved to Los Angeles only three months prior, and to that point had been wildly unsuccessful with dating. I’ve always been a gregarious, outgoing guy, and as a professional journalist and former TV and radio reporter, I’ve never thought myself to be lacking in the charisma department, so conventional ways of meeting people seemed to me much more opportune and much less shallow than some mobile app that asks you to judge someone based on your first impression of a photo.

I quickly found myself addicted to swiping in directions both left and right, and even more so to seeing the words “It’s A Match!” flash across my screen. When I first saw Alexandra (Allee) on Tinder, I’ll admit, I swiped right because I thought she was sexy. I swiped right, but got no response in the days that followed. During that time, I went out with a couple of girls, also from Tinder, but none that made me think “Wow, she’s girlfriend material.” Maybe a week after I had first swiped right, I got a notification saying that Alexandra and I matched.

I’m not sure why, but a voice in my head said ‘Message her! Now, you idiot!” I took a quick glance at her profile, which began “Independent. Sales Secretary. Sass queen.” I led with this:

Tinder message

Over the days that followed, Allee and I messaged constantly via Tinder. We would message each other ‘Good morning!’ every day before work and “Goodnight!’ every night before bed. I explained to Allee that I was unsure what I was looking for, because my previous girlfriend had left me abruptly, after a three year relationship, so she could explore other options in men. Allee told me she had reservations as well, because she’d been taken advantage of many times in the past. Despite my skepticism, there was something inexplicably magnetic about her personality, and I knew I had to at least give it a shot.

We continued to text and eventually made plans for dinner and a movie the following weekend, just before Valentine’s Day. Doing my best to quell my nerves when I arrived at the front door, I knocked and was greeted by a stunning, curvy blonde with a bright smile, kind eyes, and an infectious laugh. We were able to skip most of the formalities and awkwardness, since despite it being our first meeting, I felt like I knew so much about her from texting back and forth in the days prior.

The plan was to hit my preferred sushi joint, but as my luck would have it, the restaurant was closed for a private party. After having a laugh at my expense, we found a suitable substitute and bonded over our love of raw fish and Bradley Cooper films, and I regressed to a high school kid with butterflies in his stomach when she laid her head on my shoulder during the movie. We shared our first kiss that night on her doorstep. We made plans to meet again the following weekend, and went out on an impromptu Valentine’s Day date for Italian food and The Spongebob Movie: Sponge Out of Water (which we obviously loved).

Allee and I have now been together for more than half a year. We see each other several times a week, and enjoy going to baseball games, eating sushi, and going on hikes around L.A. with Allee’s German Shepard, Hazel. Allee is a thoughtful, selfless, hilarious, and generous woman. She makes me want to be the best version of myself but wouldn’t change a thing about me if you asked her. I often ask myself (and sometimes her too) what I did to deserve this. We’re incredibly happy together, and while no one can predict the future, we are planning to be that way for the foreseeable future.

The moral of the story? You never know unless you swipe (right).

Congratulations to Matt and Allee on finding their match on Tinder.

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Julie Spira is America’s Top Online Dating Expert and Digital Matchmaker. She was an early adopter of online dating and is the founder of Julie creates Irresistible Profiles for singles on the dating scene and helps them find love on Tinder with  For more dating advice,  sign up for the free Weekly Flirt newsletter and follow @JulieSpira on Twitter.

Peril of the Week – The Concert Date

Peril of the Week - Cyber Dating ExpertSometimes it’s great to be impulsive and go on a last minute date, but in the case of this female dater, she would have been better off if she had gone with a friend or knew her date better before their first concert date.

Wondering what happened? Read the latest entry to the Peril of the Week and find out why this date went south.

This past week, I had an amazing opportunity to see one of the world’s most iconic musicians, Stevie Wonder in concert. But I needed someone to go with. On a whim, I mentioned this to someone I was chatting with on OK Cupid.  He jumped at the chance to go.

I did have hesitations on whether or not to go to a concert on a first date but given the superstar playing, I simply assumed there would be enough going on to make even the most awkward date, ok.

I was wrong.

After arriving an hour late, my date suggested I drive to the venue, and could we stop for beers in advance.  While I don’t drink, I do understand the importance of the pre-party so I obliged.

Unfortunately, my date decided this would be a great time to down several 20 oz. beers, and this was all before he pulled out the 5th of generic whiskey to wash it down.  At this point, he shared with me that he had just started drinking again this year and we hadn’t even gone into the concert yet.

Once inside the venue, my date was determined to get us backstage.

If you know me, you know how much I love this. All you have to do is figure out where the easiest way is to get on the floor and head that way.  Right?

No. Not for my date. Perhaps it was the alcohol at this point, but let’s just label this endeavor a mistake.

We did find better seats though, maybe not the floor, but certainly better than our last row tickets.  But this was not enough for my date and the mood was set for the concert and the mood was not fun.

Imagine being seated next to someone exceptionally hyper, very buzzed and wanting more than what we have.  It was not fun…so not fun that half way through the show, I suggested we leave.

I still can’t believe that a 47-year old man chugged three 20 oz. beers and then pulled out a flask of Old Grandad before walking into a concert for a first date.

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Cyber Love Story – Lyft Lovebirds

Lyft Love BirdsMobile apps for transportation have caused a huge paradigm shift in the way people are using transportation to airports or just on a party night. With New Year’s Eve, using your mobile app for companies such as Uber, Lyft or Sidecar will help you safely get to your destination.

But what if these mobile apps can actually help you find love from the comfort of one of their cars?

Meet Camille Bates and Ian Osborne, both who are Lyft drivers in San Francisco.

Last New Year’s Eve, Camille was very sad after a holiday season filled with strife. She had ended her relationship with her boyfriend after a year of being together and was feeling down in the dumps. The last thing she wanted to do was to go to a New Year’s party and pretend to be happy. So instead of accepting a party invitation, the social-introvert decided her plan for the evening would be to drive all night to get party goers safely to their destinations.

“I wanted to live vicariously through other peoples’ happiness,” said Bates. “I brought along party favors including glow in the dark wristbands and snacks and was having fun giving out things to my passengers.”

At around 9pm, Camille accepted a ride request from a gentleman named Ian. Coincidentally, Ian was also a Lyft driver on occasion.

Camille had made a New Year’s resolution to follow her intuition and she figured he’d already been background checked by Lyft, so she agreed to join them. As Ian entered the car with his buddies, he instructed her to take them to a house party in the Marina. Ian was sitting in the front of the car next to Camille and his friends were in the back seat. Her passengers were singing songs loudly, and after Camille asked them about the party they would be attending, Ian casually asked Camille if she wanted to join them.

While at the party, Ian’s friends decided to leave to attend another bash, leaving Ian and Camille to themselves at the original party. A few hours and glasses of champagne later, the two headed up to the party host’s roof deck to toast in the New Year. As the clock struck midnight, they shared their first kiss. As they looked over the beach on the Embarcadero in San Francisco, Camille reflected to a month earlier where she was gazing at the same beach when a shooting star appeared. Her wish was to find her soul mate.

Nine magical months later, Ian asked Camille to marry him and they will be getting married in the summer of 2016.

You never know who you’ll meet while using your mobile apps, or how a “pickup” will turn out.

Wishing you much love and joy in cyberspace in 2015, or wherever you may roam.

Julie Spira is America’s Top Online Dating Expert and Digital Matchmaker. She was an early adopter of online dating and is the founder of Julie helps singles find love in the digital age. For dating advice, follow @JulieSpira on Twitter and sign up for the free Cyber-Dating Expert Weekly Flirt newsletter.

Cyber Love Story – Robyn and Richard

robyn richard smallMeet Robyn and Richard who met on Their cyber love story is an inspiration to all that if you stick with the online dating process, you can eventually find the love of your life.

Robyn’s Cyber Love Story:

I was divorced and living in Los Angeles for nine years and dating in LA wasn’t easy. I was dating on and off for a few years online. I really wasn’t sure that I was going to meet someone. Like many, I got frustrated with the process, but I had met a woman in Los Angeles who went on 300 online dates!  On date 300 she met ‘the one’ and they’ve been together for ten years. That gave me a lot of hope, but still the thought of 300 dates terrified me.

What really kept me going is a man I met on match and dated briefly. Although we didn’t go the distance we became the best of friends. Within a year, he met his life partner on Match. That gave me even more hope.

So I joined Match in January and had been searching within 12 miles of where I lived. I know that’s not very far, but with the traffic in Los Angeles, it seemed realistic to me. When my male friend, whose girlfriend lived in the Valley suggested that I expand my search to a town in the Valley called Woodland Hills, (I live near the beach), I found the zip code and typed it into the search to view men I would have never considered before. I didn’t even know where that town was.

Then I saw Richard’s photo and profile in July. I was brave and decided to write to him first. Ladies listen up. Guys really like it when you write to them. I sent a simple email, which said, “Hey I read your profile. Sounds like we might have a few things in common. Check out my profile and let me know what you think.”

He emailed me back right away. We set up a phone date for the next day and it went to voicemail.

We met three days later and I remember getting out of the car and taking a deep breath and saying to myself,  ‘Ok. Here we go. I hope he looks remotely like his picture.”

Richard was waiting for me in the restaurant wearing a suit and a tie. He looked rather dashing. I thought, hmm. I might have just met my future husband, and it turned out that it did!

I never thought someone of this guy’s caliber would be waiting for me at the end of the journey. I cannot even say how lucky I feel! If someone had invented the perfect someone for me, Richard would be it.

Richard’s Cyber Love Story:

I had been a member of Match for about four years and dated lots of people. Most were the typical one-and-done dates.

I saw Robyn’s profile in my daily matches and read her bio. I was attracted to her, but I was intimidated by her experience as a newscaster and reporter. She had been living in New York and had traveled around the world. She appeared to be sophisticated and I thought I wouldn’t live up to her expectations, so I didn’t write to her.

I was very thrilled when I received her email. In our first conversation, we had a lot to say to each other. I felt very comfortable with her when we met for a drink. She looked like her photos and like every guy, I was happy about that. We spent four hours talking and I knew I wanted to ask her out again. From our second date, we became exclusive and I actually knew after about 3-4 months of dating that I wanted to marry her.

We talked about marriage and our future, but Robyn had it in her head that a couple needed to be together for a year or two, so she said she’d think about it.

We moved in together and got a new apartment after 9 months of dating and then on our one-year anniversary of our first date, we were married on the beach in Malibu and are set for a Europe honeymoon.

Congratulations to Robyn and Richard who prove that you can find love online.

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Peril of the Week – Black Card Denied

Peril of the Week - Black Card DeniedThis entry for The Peril of the Week comes from Amanda, a 27-year old native New Yorker who’s living with her parents in Long Island.

We’ve talked a lot about men and women who say they’re single, when in fact, their relationship status is, “Separated, divorce pending.” Amanda’s been dating online and thought she met a great guy with “Jerry.” Can you relate?

Read about Amanda’s dating dilemma and feel free to share yours as well.

My mother always told me I should try dating a man with children. They can commit and you like to cook…She said. (That’s the same logic behind dating a man in prison right? They can commit to hard time and I can bake them pies?) I decided to scope out the single daddy-scene and met ‘Jerry,’ a self described bachelor, father, financier and as I would learn later problem drinker. I arrived at the Jade hotel for dinner wearing leather Prada heels, (which I should have done a lap in beforehand) Paige denim jeans (that made my legs look like stilts), and a sheer blouse which my mother kindly says indicates ?an obvious padded bra.? I may not have Victoria Beckham?s body or budget but I promise you one thing, I am workin’ it.

Jerry was shockingly better looking in person. (Contrary to most dates where the photo sent online looks like George Clooney and you end up meeting his 3rd cousin, a Japanese sumo wrestler.) ‘Jerry’ and I were instantly attracted to one another and we immediately delved deep into conversation. He whipped out his iPhone, displaying a gallery of pictures, his heart melting each time he spoke of his gorgeous children. This quickly switched to talk of his ‘ex’ wife who I could have easily mistaken for Cruella Deville.

‘Jerry,’ a well-known financial executive, traveled often which made me realize a relationship would be impossible. (Why didn’t this occur to me beforehand? Well that would indicate a trace of commonsense yes? ) As our meal progressed, I noticed ‘Jerry’s’ story regarding his ‘situation’ began to crumble.

Although I don’t drink, I do prefer my dates to consume copious amounts of liquor. I find it acts as a form of Sodium Thiopental (Pentothal), commonly referred to as ‘truth serum.’ At the opening of the date, ‘Jerry’s’ story began with, ‘my ex wife and I are divorced and I live in the city.’ Two drinks later, I sleep in the basement of our home. (I asked if he would care for some dessert wine.)

‘Jerry’s divorce turned out to be in litigation and nowhere near final. I was afraid what I would find out if I offered him some SAKE! Was he really a woman? My friend ‘Demi’ told me something very smart once. “It’s very easy for a man to remove a ring. Who knows how many men say they are divorced that we have dated?” Seven glasses of wine later and it was time for the check. ‘Jerry’ pulled out his black card and handed it to the waitress. “I’m sorry sir, it’s declined!” she SHOUTED! I was actually under the impression that black cards had an unlimited spending limit but did someone not pay their bill? He looked as if he had seen a dead relative (shocked) and handed the server another card.

Here is a tip to all men: Call your credit card company before going to dinner and be sure to conjure up a convincing story. Even if it is a lie learn your lines.

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