Did you miss our Valentine’s radio interview with Randi Zuckerberg on Dot Complicated on SiriusXM?
We talked about digital love, Valentine’s Day, tips for online dating profile dos and don’ts, why punctuation matters, and why wearing red in your profile will get more matches and dates.
Randi also asked me to share some of my favorite Valentine’s gifts for the tech lover in your life.
Here are 7 perfect tech gifts your Valentine will like, or love.
1. Rose Gold Headphones ($299.95) or Earphones ($99.95)
Rose gold is romantic and says love over like. Listening to music playlists filled with love songs personally created for your sweetheart for Valentine’s Day will fill his or her heart with joy.
2. Apple Watch ($249-$1,250)
Wearing something on your wrist from your Valentine is the tech version of buying her jewelry. Everytime he or she calls, you’ll remember they got you this gift. Plus you can send flirty texts, enjoy video chats, and stay in touch to keep the romance alive.
3. Engraved Gold or Pink iPod Shuffle ($49)
Receiving an iPod Shuffle with an “I love you” engraved is something that will not wear off. You can select music just for the two of you.
4. Pixel Heart Changing Mug from ThinkGeek ($9.99)
This cute tech gift won’t break the bank and you’ll think of your sweetheart when you have your morning coffee. Once the mug is filled up with warm liquid, the heart will start flashing. Cutesy, but fun.
5. Amazon Echo ($179.99)
This bestselling gift will fill the room with 360 degrees of music from Prime Music, Spotify, Pandora, iHeart Radio, Tune In, and can even control the lights in the room, which is perfect to change the ambiance to a mood for love.
6. Bluetooth Beanie ($29.99)
This bluetooth beanie will keep your loved one’s head warm, while still staying in touch. It’s perfect for a cold winter day or a day on the ski slopes.
7. Heart iPhone Charger ($14.99)
Charging your phone will always make you think of love with this cute charger with 8 LED lights. You’ll be thinking of the power of love.
Newly released: Our completely revised edition of The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online. Now available as an audio book in Audible and on Kindle. Listen to the magical epilogue with the fairy tale ending to help you believe in love.
They say that timing is everything in life. Today, mobile dating app Hinge decided to say goodbye to their 24-hour timed feature.
This was one of my favorite features on Hinge, as it forced people to respond quickly, rather than waiting and having the momentum of the match fizzle away.
Still, we are living very busy lives these days, and if you’re only getting a handful of matches each day, sometimes it’s hard to make sure to log on to view them.
Other apps such as Coffee Meet Bagel and Bumble still have the 24-hour timing feature, which sets them apart from other mobile dating apps.
With over 100 million singles using mobile dating apps, narrowing the search can result in less dates, but more quality dates for some daters.
So as we bid Hinge’s 24-hour clock a adieu, remember, you still only have 14 days to communicate with your match on Hinge, so makes sure to grab his or her digits, before the match sadly expires.
How do you feel about having 14 days instead of 24 hours to connect with a potential match?
Your comments are welcome.
Julie Spira is America’s Top Online Dating Expert and Digital Matchmaker. She’s been helping singles find love online for over 20 years with her Irresistible Profiles programs. For dating advice, follow @JulieSpira on Twitter and sign up for the free Weekly Flirt Newsletter.
Did you hear our good news? Our bestselling book, The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online is now available as an audio book. It’s been completely revised for Valentine’s Day and includes a new epilogue with a magical twist, along with a fairy tale ending to help you believe in love.
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Facebook plays Cupid for America’s Top Online Dating Expert, Julie Spira.
Seven years ago, author Julie Spira released her best-selling memoir and online dating book, The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online, which chronicled her romantic journey while looking for love online.
Spira, CEO of Cyber-Dating Expert, was an early adopter of online dating and has been helping singles find love online for over 20 years.
New developments in Spira’s love life have sparked fans’ interests and have ignited demands to know how the story ends.
Today, Spira is proud to announce the re-release of The Perils of Cyber-Dating, completely revised and updated, with new dating advice and a magical epilogue that will help readers believe in love.
“One always wonders about the one that got away,” said Spira. “After seven years together with the man I referred to as the “Love of my Life,” we went our separate ways and married others just days apart. I thought I’d never hear from him again.”
Julie initially went online in the early 1990s where she hoped to replace the former love of her life with an Internet mate. The author wrote about her breakup with her former long-time love in her book, along with the subsequent relationships that followed.
Little did she know, the love of her life also never stopped thinking about her. After his divorce, he read her book for the first time and read about their romance, including how they fell in love at first sight 24 years earlier. He reached out to her on Facebook after Valentine’s Day last year. The two reunited for the first time after 16 years apart.
Dr. Helen Fisher, biological anthropologist and chief science officer at match.com believes a rekindled romance is very powerful. “We are built to love and never forget the person you were deeply in love with,” says Fisher. “If the timing is right and they come back, the brain circuitry can be awakened almost instantly. That person you were deeply in love with before, fits within your love map.” Fisher, the author of Anatomy of Love (WW Norton: 2nd edition Feb 1, 2016) says the brain remembers the good times. The brain is built to try again.”
“The love of my life returned to me for Act Three and another chance at love. It will be a Happy Valentine’s Day indeed.”
Spira is speaking at Digital LA’s Mobile Dating Apps panel in Los Angeles on February 3, 2016.
The new edition of the book is available on Amazon, Audible, and iTunes. The author is available to speak on how to make rekindled romances work, how to find love online for Valentine’s Day, best mobile dating apps, online dating safety, and online dating profile dos and don’ts.
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About Julie Spira
Julie Spira is America’s Top Online Dating Expert and Digital Matchmaker. She was an early adopter of Internet dating and has been helping singles find love online for over 20 years. Julie is the founder of Cyber-Dating Expert and has been featured over 650 times in the media with her online dating and mobile dating advice. Social media influence site Klout ranks Spira as the most influential person in “dating” and “online dating.” Visit CyberDatingExpert.com.
Every year in January, the online dating industry gathers to talk about the latest trends in online dating and mobile dating.
Held in Miami Beach this year, Internet Dating Conference organizer Marc Lesnick curated a list of dating experts, matchmakers, online security experts, dating sites, and mobile dating apps for the 43rd Internet Dating Conference.
One of the highlights of the conference is the iDate Awards, which were held at the Deauville hotel in Miami Beach.
For the second year in a row, Tinder walked away with the “Best Mobile Dating App” of the year, while Zoosk won Best Dating Site of the year. eHarmony scored with two iDate Awards, one for “Best Marketing Campaign” and another for “Most Innovative Company.”
Grant Langston from eHarmony accepted their two awards and Kelly Steckelberg, CEO of Zoosk accepted the award on behalf of Zoosk.
Other awards went to Happn, who was featured in our Mobile Apps to Use in 2016, for “Best Up & Coming Dating Site” and the “Best New Technology” award went to Dating Factory.
Some of the conference highlights included an opening Keynote from Steckelberg, where she informed the crowd that online dating is now a 2.2 billion dollar industry. “When the first dating sites came online, there were only 14% of adults on the Internet,” said Steckelberg. Today, 90% of adults are on the Internet. Most users are on multiple sites and dating apps, sometimes up to five at a time.
Mark Brooks, an industry consultant presented his 2015 Year in Review, which is always one of my favorite sessions. Brooks cited an eHarmony survey, where they found that meeting online lead to happier marriages. For those who met online, 45% met through Internet dating and 35% met through social networking and chat rooms.
Television was a big theme at this year’s conference, where producer’s of Carmelia Ray’s upcoming show, Mom vs. Matchmaker were highlighted in a panel. Another television panel included Damona Hoffman, who is a dating coach in Black Love on FYI, along with Devyn Simone, who is the co-host of Love at First Swipe on TLC. I held a session on Managing the Headlines: How to Get Press, filled with tips on how to respond to stories in the news about online and mobile dating.
There was a lively talk with Mark Brooks and Michael Egan, CEO of JDate to discuss Spark Networks.
All in all it was a love fest for those in attendance.
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Julie Spira is America’s Top Online Dating Expert and Digital Matchmaker. She’s been helping singles find love online for over 20 years. For dating advice, sign up for the free Weekly Flirt newsletter and find out how Irresistible Profiles will help you find your dream date.
Now on Kindle and Audible, our 2nd edition of our bestselling book has been released for Valentine’s Day. Read or listen to the end to find out about our magical epilogue with a digital twist.
We are thrilled that Marilu Henner had Julie on as a guest again on the Marilu Henner Show.
Julie talked about the latest trends in dating, shared details about her magical epilogue in her newly released book, and gave online dating profile dos and don’ts.
This show will get you ready for Valentine’s.
Listen to the show here.
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We’re growing rapidly at Cyber-Dating Expert Headquarters.
Meet Erin Paradiso, our new Editorial Assistant who has joined our team.
Erin will be working on our Weekly Flirt newsletter and you’ll be seeing some fun posts about online dating and mobile dating from her at CyberDatingExpert.com.
Here are some fun facts about Erin:
- Loves carbs, all of them
- Loves cats, but she’s allergic
- She’s single and is dating on Tinder
- Doesn’t like hiking or going the gym
- Loves music, especially Fall Out Boy
Erin has a bachelors degree in entertainment business from the Los Angeles Film School and she’s excited to be spreading the love with us.
You can reach Erin at firstname.lastname@example.org with your story ideas.
It’s an honor to be a featured speaker at the Internet Dating Conference, iDate-2016 to be held in Miami, Florida on January 25 – 27th.
iDate is the online dating and mobile dating industry conference with executives from online dating sites and matchmakers who will meet to discuss the latest industry trends.
Cyber-Dating Expert has been attending the iDate conference for the past eight years and is a proud sponsor of the Internet Dating Conference.
We all know that online dating is a HOT topic in the news. My panel, Managing the Headlines: How to Get Press will be held on Wednesday, January 27th at 2pm at the Kovens Conference Center in Miami, USA in room 110. My presentation will immediately follow the session, Match.com Going Public and Projected Forecasts for the Dating Industries, presented by Mark Brools of Courtland Brooks and Alex Harrington from Snap Interactive.
In my session, we’ll discuss the hottest news stories of the past year. I’ll talk about which headlines to respond to and which ones to avoid to show your business in the best light. From Tinder pro to Valentine’s Day, I’ll be sharing my secrets on how I became a top online dating expert and go-to person in the media, having been featured in over 650 news stories on the subjects of Internet dating and mobile dating.
I’ll also be presenting the award for Best Mobile Dating App at the iDate Awards on January 26th, so grab your tux and gown and head on down to Miami.
Join me at iDate in Miami. You can purchase your tickets here to save $75 on your registration.
Follow me on Twitter @JulieSpira, where I’ll be sending out live updates from iDate-2016.
Today is #MusicMonday, so it’s time to put the digital DJ hat on.
It’s also the birthday of singer/songwriter heartthrob and Grammy winner, John Legend.
In honor of John’s birthday, we couldn’t feature just one Cyber Love Song for the week. Here are five of his best romantic love songs, with some lyrics that will make you swoon.
Happy Birthday John Legend and thanks for the music.
1. Ordinary People
2. All of Me
4. Stay With You
5. Save Room
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It’s Christmas week and the stores will be packed with people picking up last minute gifts.
As a dating expert and coach, I know that for singles and those in new relationships, the holidays are filled with both joy and anxiety. It’s also peak time for online dating, so don’t be surprised if your inbox starts to fill up with new suitors.
It’s also a time for where couples breakup, as the stress of being with someone you know you can’t go the distance with makes it difficult to be together for the holidays, especially if you’ll be with his or her family. We wrote about the famous Facebook Breakup Chart a few years back, where David McClandess showed that the period between December 12-24th was one of the peak seasons for breaking up.
So what should you do about buying him or her a gift for the holidays?
Let’s talk about holiday gift giving.
Could it be that your date doesn’t want to splurge on a fancy holiday gift if you’re in a new relationship, or if times are tough on his or her wallet? What should he or she do?
If you’ve just started to date someone you’ve met online and have only had a few dates, you may wonder if should you buy him or her a lavish gift, or any gift at all. What if you’re dating multiple people? Do you need to buy everyone a gift?
While the easiest solution would be to leave town for the holidays, or even put your head under the covers, know that you’re not alone with the gift giving dilemma.
Jenna wrote to me that that she’s been dating someone for four weeks, but both of them still have active online dating profiles. Although she believes they’re exclusive, they haven’t had the talk, so as far as I’m concerned, it’s an “implied exclusive” relationship and they might not be on the same page.
Jenna would like to give her new beau a holiday gift during one of their holiday dates. However, the subject of exchanging gifts has never come up in conversation. She’s hinted about things she’d like in her stocking, but her new guy hasn’t asked her what she’d like for the holidays or made specific plans for Christmas or Christmas Eve just yet.
Jenna wonders if it’s too soon to be exchanging gifts and what she should do.
My take on the situation, is that you should always give a gift, without expecting one in return. If she sees that he loves filling in the blanks in the New York Times crossword puzzles, why not go to a bookstore or order a large puzzle book from Amazon? The cost is less than $20 and it will show the person you’re dating that you’re paying attention to things that interest him. It the thought that matters.
My boyfriend is a winemaker. He grew and nurtured his own grapes and bottled his own wine, complete with designing the wine labels. It’s something he enjoys and is proud of. For Father’s Day and his birthday, I gave him a wine stopper, one with a globe of the world on it to memorialize the trips we’ve gone on, and another with a golf ball on it, as he loves to play golf. These cherished pieces showed him that I noticed what his passions were. Wine and golf. Simple, but perfect.
Some new couples will take charge and ask each other what they’d like for the holidays. If this happens, then know that you’ll be gift shopping. For a new relationship, there’s nothing wrong with putting a budget on holiday gift giving, or suggesting going to a sporting event or concert together to celebrate an event together as a couple.
The worst thing you can do is to lavish your date with an expensive gift early on in the relationship. It may make him or her run the other way, or feel guilty that they haven’t reciprocated.
So just how appropriate would it be to give her a diamond watch or a new puppy?
Unless you’re in a serious relationship, where you have a history of buying each other a birthday present or other special gifts, don’t assume you’ll be receiving a gift, nor should you ever feel obligated to buy your date a gift. It’s impossible to ignore the holidays while listening to the Christmas songs on the radio and in the stores, but it’s the thought that counts.
Some of my favorite thoughtful gifts, which won’t break the bank include:
- iTunes song of your date’s favorite band
- Gift certificate for a movie and dinner
- Gift certificate for a massage
- A golf lesson
- An accessory or charger for his or her iPhone/iPad
- A gift certificate for a handyman for the day (for her)
- A framed photo of the two of you
- An animated card starring you! Shop JibJab!The worst thing you can do when you give your date a gift, is to ask him or her what they were planning on getting you, if it appears they aren’t reciprocating. You’ll make him or her feel uncomfortable about not taking the time to buy you a present, or they’ll feel obligated to pick up a gift and resentment could build up. It’s just too much pressure for a new relationship.
Remember, the best gift you can give each other is time spent together creating new memories. A hug and a kiss under the mistletoe is priceless. Add a card and you have a recipe for a wonderful time together this holiday season.
Julie Spira is an online dating and mobile dating expert. She’s the founder of Cyber-Dating Expert and the bestselling author of The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online. For more dating advice, visit to sign up for the Weekly Flirt and follow @JulieSpira on Twitter, Facebook, and Instagram.
Emily Dickinson, one of the greatest poets in history would have been 185 years old today.
In honor of her birthday and five of her greatest quotes on love, we thought we’d share a few with you today to warm your heart.
- “If I can stop one heart from breaking, I shall not live in vain.”
2. “To love is so startling it leaves little time for anything else.”
3. “I argue thee that love is life. And life hath immortality.”
4. “Hope is the thing with feathers that perches in the soul – and sings the tunes without the words – and never stops at all.”
5. “The soul should always stand ajar, ready to welcome the ecstatic experience.”
Wishing you much love and joy in cyberspace, or wherever you may roam. xo
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