Meet Melissa and Ross, who found love on Match.
When Melissa first came to me, she was nervous about hiring a dating coach, and just became single for the first time in 20 years. She was actually terrified of trying online dating for the first time.
We created her Irresistible Profile on Match, had a super-fun photo shoot, and went live her dating profile with the headline of “LA Farm Girl.”
Melissa loves animals, had lived on a ranch, and as a single mom of two teenage kids, needed to find someone who was devoted to his family like she was.
Ross, whose screen name was “Dog Lover” wrote to Melissa within a few days of her profile going live.
His first message said, “You are beautiful and too beautiful to be on Match.”
He asked, “Is that what you really look like?”
Melissa replied with, “I sure hope so. I just took the photos last week.”
Before she met Ross, Melissa went on three dates to build up her confidence and get out of her shell. “It felt a bit overwhelming,” she said.
As Melissa and Ross continued to chat, they both realized they had much more than pets and children in common. Both had coincidentally attended the University of Southern California (USC) at the same time, were both enrolled in the communications program, and lived two houses apart. It was hard to believe that they had never met while in college.
Then one day, Ross sent her a message on Match and asked, “Are you done meeting these weirdos and ready to give me a chance?”
Melissa felt a connection with him and started doing her due diligence to vet Ross to make sure he was the real deal. One of her friends told her that Ross was a terrific attorney. Another friend of hers said they had built Ross’s house, and that their children went to school together.
“Everyone said wonderful things about him,” says Melissa.
Because they knew so many people in common, she felt safe about having him pick her up for their first date.
By the time they met, Melissa said they both felt like they had known each other forever.
For their first date, Ross arrived with roses, wine, and they went to dinner, where they felt a warm connection right away. “He was a real gentleman,” says Melissa.
“I knew when I saw your picture and when I heard your voice from the first conversation, that you were ‘the one,'” says Ross.
They quickly introduced their kids to each other, met each other’s families, and now realize they are each other’s forever.
Congratulations to Melissa and Ross, our online dating success couple, who proves that the big world-wide-web can make you feel like you’re at home when the right one comes along.
Julie Spira is America’s Top Online Dating Expert and an award-winning dating coach. She’s the CEO of Cyber-Dating Expert and has been helping singles find love online for over 20 years with her Irresistible Profiles programs.
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Meet Rachel and Jason who fell in love on the Tinder mobile dating app. She shared how the two met with some heartwarming details about their courtship.
When Rachel first saw her now-husband on Tinder, she said, “I thought he was handsome! Initially, all I had to go off of were his pictures. One in particular, of him standing in a park in a navy hoodie got me. He was good looking but there was also something warm about his smile. To be honest, he seemed out of my league but I went for him anyway.”
How long did it take to meet “IRL” (in real life) and when did your courtship begin?
“Interestingly, we agreed to make plans almost right away as we had initial good banter back and forth and enough in common that I felt comfortable meeting…. but we scheduled the actual date a couple of weeks out. I had just moved to L.A. and wasn’t free for a couple of weeks for what would end up being my second Tinder date ever, and on his end (while I didn’t realize it at the time), he had been out on so many Tinder dates prior to meeting me that his expectations were not exceedingly high, so he was totally content to wait.”
When did you know or become exclusive (how long before?) and how did you know he/she was the one?
“I would say we went from 0-60 very quickly. Our first date was February 13th, 2014 we both went strategically radio silent on Valentine’s Day and then we made plans and went out on our second date on February 15th. I think we were formally exclusive within the first 2 months, although truthfully, I was probably a little slower than he was to get the memo.
I had literally just moved to L.A. from New York a month and a half prior, and was going out of my way to meet new people. And I was coming from Manhattan where people just didn’t seem to take dating quite as seriously as they do in L.A. My husband claims he had worked his way through half of Tinder before meeting me and was a little burnt out on the process and thus ready to be serious. It was so refreshing to actually meet a guy who was interested in getting to know me, spending time with me and who was not looking to play games.”
Rachel and Jason have been together for 3.5 years now. They’re married and have a 7-month-old baby girl.
Congratulations to Rachel and Jason, our Tinder Love Story.
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Meet Adriana and Dave who found love and marriage on Tinder. Find out how swiping right lead her into his arms and to the altar.
With Tinder now reporting that 80% of their members are looking for a serious or meaningful relationship, we’ll be featuring a series on couples who are happily in love, with the help of their mobile phones.
Here’s their Tinder Love Story, in Adriana’s words.
I have to admit, he was very good looking so instantly I wanted to see all of his photos. His photos weren’t of him “posing” though, they were of him being himself. There was a hilarious one of him being a goofball, one with his brother. No pictures with girls which was a huge bonus (*no girl needs the added drama of trying to figure out who the girl in the picture is ha hah). After “liking” his photos, I read his description, it read “I am a photographer and hairdresser and own hair salons. I like to have a good time and make-out”. Instantly I could infer that he had drive, was creative, and had found a hobby that filled him. And he liked to make-out – so I figured I had nothing to lose.
It took about a month before we met in person. We started asking questions about each-other (where are you from, etc.) and the chemistry was instant. He was funny, we would respond with wit and humor, which made me that much more smitten and excited to meet. It took us a while to find a time that worked for both (which is why it took us a month!), but it was cool because when we would try to set-up a time, and we couldn’t because of x reason, we were really interested in what the other was doing, which made the conversations that much more dynamic.
I think there was so much great tension that built up from that cat-and-mouse chase that made it all that more exciting when we finally met. Since we had incredible energy in place, there was really no pressure when we met – which made it relaxed and quite possibly the best date of my life. We started with a movie, which actually was awesome because the silence, and how close we were sitting to each other, only heightened all the energy we had bottled up. Then we went for a drink at his favorite Indian place.
Then, a little buzzed, we went over to the most in-demand restaurant in SF, where we got what I swear was the sexiest table at the bar and ate and laughed until about 1, a.m. We ended at a dive-bar where we played pool, and finally, to end the night (and true to his profile description) we went back to his house to make-out. And yes, it was JUST to make-out – I had to leave him wanting more.
The courtship definitely started right after our first date. I wish I could put it into words, but we both knew from that date that there was something special. The day after our first date, he helped me with a photography project. The day after that, we met up for lunch – and stayed together until dinner. The day after that, coffee – and before we knew it, we were inseparable.
From day one we were pretty much exclusive. I didn’t see anyone else after I met him, because I didn’t have to. I wasn’t missing out on anything. I felt that no one could possibly have what David had. He was handsome, funny, cultured, had so much confidence in himself but was somehow, at the same time, humble and equal to everyone around him. It has been the easiest relationship either of us has ever been in, and we say it all the time. We always wanted to hang-out with one-another, and every time we did (and still do) it was always (and still is) a good time.
If our personalities clash, they clash for two minutes, because after that, we forgive, forget about it, and we go on with our day. That’s how I knew he was the one – it was on a random night. We were in bed, just watching a movie and he had fallen asleep. Our legs were intertwined and we had just said our good nights and how much we loved each other. It wasn’t anything different to how we went to bed any other night – but that’s how I knew. I knew that I wanted to spend the rest of my life going to bed saying I love you to him. And waking up by his kisses and hearing him say “my beautiful girl”. It’s our little, mundane routines that made me want to have a life with him. No matter what happens in the day, we always go to bed intertwined, and to me, that’s a pretty great life to have. Something I knew I wanted to keep.
We’ve been together for almost 4 years and got married last April, so this year we’ll be celebrating our 1-year anniversary. Marriage has been incredible, and it’s so surreal but the most incredible feeling to look-up and see him doing whatever in the kitchen or living room, and knowing that he’s my husband. We love to travel, and have been doing tons of it, and before kids, that’s what we want to keep on doing. Family is huge for us, so kids are slowly but surely creeping into the picture, but for now, we want to be married. We want to enjoy each other, support growth in our careers, and develop something really strong so that when kids come along, we’re solid.
Congratulations to Adriana and Dave, who prove you can swipe right for love.
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When David’s dad requested that I critique his son’s profile on OkCupid, I wasn’t prepared for what I saw. David did not have an Irresistible Profile, not even close.
As a single dad with a heart of gold, his profile didn’t reflect what a great guy he was. As a matter of fact, the pictures weren’t inviting and throughout the profile he said, “Don’t contact me if…. and don’t contact me if…” He also included a warning label at the end.
There was such a huge list of reasons why a woman shouldn’t contact him. As a result, he had a pretty empty inbox.
Fortunately, he was a great student and his profile tune up resulted in David meeting the love of his life, Raquel and they’ve been going strong for almost four years.
David says he felt a familiar connection when he first gazed into Raquel’s eyes in her online dating photo. He recalls his initial comment being about one of their shared interests and that her outfit, in her profile photo, reminded him of a Viking princess.
Raquel responded and they had their first phone conversation where they discussed Robert Camp’s book, “Love Cards” and had fun discussing their connection, based on those principles. At the close of that phone call, they set a date to meet.
David very much appreciated their shared interests in self-help, spiritual, and mystery school topics and their attraction was mutual. Their first date led to a second and after their fifth, they became exclusive. One of the first things they did together, after becoming an item, was doing a couple’s weekend at the University of Santa Monica (USM), of which Raquel is an alum, so they could start their relationship off on the right footing.
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Most of the couples who attended had been married for many years and they were either doing what they can to re-ignite their passion or were at the end of their ropes and desperate to find a reason to stay together. Raquel and David consider themselves to be very lucky to have learned these tools and techniques, in the beginning of their relationship, which continue to be put into practice to this day, to protect and ensure that their coupling remain conscious and honored.
Since their time together, both of them have become Human Design Guides and also formed a company called, CoachEXP.com, a rating and review website for life coaches, business mentors, and spiritual leaders, which is quickly growing in popularity. David and Raquel remain truly grateful for every precious moment they have and intend to continue to do great work together. They are partners in every sense of the word.
David says he is now in my debt, (yes men do hire dating coaches!), so I can call upon him at any time and he must comply with my wishes.
Congratulations to David and Raquel for finding love online, on OkCupid.
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Meet Steven and Melissa who met offline, but quickly fell in love and started seeing each other almost every day. After a month and a half of dating, Melissa ended their relationship, thinking he might not be the right person to be a father figure for her three children. Steven was heartbroken.
To make matters worse, Melissa ghosted Steven and stopped returning his calls and texts, unfriended him on Facebook and went her own way.
Steven was convinced that she was ‘the one’ and reached out to us while looking for a dating coach and expert to help get his girlfriend back. While no one can wave a magic wand and make someone return to their ex, we knew we could take a stab at it and came up with a strategy in our Irresistible Dating Coaching program for Steven to give it one last try.
Flash forward three months and the couple got back together and Steven proposed marriage to Melissa. Melissa said YES!
We are so thrilled to have helped this couple reunite after the ghosting episode and they are excited about their future together.
In Steven’s words, “Everything is wonderful and I want to thank you for everything. We’re madly in love and I couldn’t be happier.”
Congratulations to Steven and Melissa on your engagement. We wish you much love and joy in this new chapter of your life.
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Meet Clara and Sandy our Cyber Love Story featured couple who met on Match and fell in love.
When Clara joined Match, she was only on the site for about two months when she got matched with Sandy.
Both Clara and Sandy had lost their spouses, so they had that in common. Clara was single for eleven years and was ready to meet a man who “got her” and accepted her for who she was.
Sandy had lost his wife and was also looking for a companion to go to dinner and movies with. He selected Clara and what caught his eye, were both her hot legs and her Hungarian background.
The two spoke by phone briefly and then the emails started going back-and-forth.
When Sandy went on vacation, Clara figured he’d forget about her, but she was wrong.
Their first date in downtown Los Angeles was very romantic. After dinner, Clara, who’s an artist, invited Sandy to view her etchings in her studio.
The two dated for two weeks and saw each other every night. After two months Sandy moved in, well as Clara says, “he just stayed and never left.”
The two decided to take a big trip to Rome, Florence and Milan, Italy which tested their relationship.
On their one year anniversary together, Sandy proposed at one of their favorite Italian restaurants. He said he wanted to spend the rest of his life with Clara.
Congratulations to Clara and Sandy who have found another chance at love with the help of Match.
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About six month’s after Steph’s divorce was final, she decided to sign up for Match. She realized that dating via the night scene was not working for her, so after a friend had told her she joined Match, Steph followed suit.
After reading the Cyber-Dating Expert blog, Steph decided it was time to give Tinder a try.
Here’s her Tinder love story, in her words.
I met many wonderful men who were not for me. I had a few minor heartaches as I learned more about myself and what I thought I needed. By the time October rolled around, I was feeling less than positive about all dating. I was going through the motions of keeping up my profile, answering emails, etc. I pushed back on every inquiry.
Late October 5, 2015, I swiped right and matched with Mark. At 10:45 am, October 6th, I made a move to try to weed this one out:
Mark was so nice and returned my Boston attitude with kindness. So I decided to give this a shot. We quickly moved to phone texting and talking. Mark asked me to go to dinner. On Sunday, October 11th, we met in Buckhead. He pulled up on a busy street. I looked in his car and thought, “oh boy, I am in trouble!”
Mark, newly divorced after 25 years, joined Tinder because of the safety of “virtual” vetting and the seemingly abundant options on that app in this area. On paper, Mark and I didn’t match. I thought I needed a city guy with a like attitude who can handle me. He never considered a “Yankee” as a partner.
On our own, we may have rejected the thought of dating each other. Through Tinder, we learned more about ourselves and what is truly important in our lives. We have both come to understand that the similarities we share in humor, faith, family values, mutual support and reciprocity are what drives our desire to meld our worlds, not our ethnicity or where we were born.
I couldn’t be happier to be proven wrong by a dating app. The last five months have been a joy learning to love again. We both look forward to the days to come, and we are grateful for the “right swipe.”
Congratulations to Steph and Mark who prove you can find love on Tinder by Swiping Right.
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When Matan met Dana, he had never even used a traditional dating service. His first experience looking for love online was using the Jfiix mobile app.
As soon as he got on the app, he noticed that he suddenly got more dates than ever.
“Pretty fast, I found the one,” said Matan.
The couple got married less than one year after their first date.
Congratulations to Matan and Dana who found love using one of the newest mobile apps catering to Jewish singles.
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Meet Courtney and Jeremy our featured Cyber Love Story couple who found love on eHarmony. They recently got married in a fairytale wedding, followed by a romantic honeymoon in the Caribbean. It was Courtney’s goal to find someone special to marry and I promised her, she’d find the love of her life. I couldn’t be happier with her romantic journey.
Here are Courtney’s words.
I met Jeremy three months into my 6-month subscription on eHarmony. He recently told me that we had been matched with each other months before we went out and that he was this close to deleting all his current matches when he saw my picture. We had only emailed a few times about dates to meet up for a drink so I didn’t know much about him. I actually couldn’t remember if his name was Jeremy or Jason so I did a panicked email search before he arrived. Thankfully I got his name just before he came through the door at the downtown bar/restaurant I picked.
We ended up talking for a good two hours and he walked with me while we looked for a taxi. It was a great first date- the best first date I had been on in a long time, probably ever. I was cautiously optimistic because he was hard to read. The next day while telling two close friends how funny and good looking he was, I went to check my email and there was a funny message from him! I was thrilled. I might have done a little happy dance.
We met for dinner and then drinks the next week and I went home to LA for a week-long visit the next day. He emailed me mid-week and we immediately made plans to see each other when I returned. From that point on we started dating regularly and finally months later, we started introducing each other to our friends.
It was slow and steady and looking back it was perfect. I’m very emotional and dramatic while Jeremy is more quiet and analytical. He brings out my more practical side and I am constantly laughing at his dry humor. I think we are a perfect match.
Last month we got married after a six-month engagement. The engagement was the only part of our relationship that went quickly! Now we are getting ready to spend our first holiday season together. For the last two years I’ve gone to LA and he’s gone to his parents’ home in New Jersey. Next week we will celebrate our first Thanksgiving together with his family (our puggle Wallis is coming with us to New Jersey) and then we’re spending Christmas week in New York with my parents, brother and sister in-law, and their new baby girl- our first niece!
Thank you Julie for your wisdom and advice. I would not be marrying this wonderful guy if I didn’t follow your Playbook!
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MATT: I met my girlfriend on Tinder.
Now, I know what you’re probably thinking. ‘Wow, that relationship must be solid if you met on a site like Tinder.’ Frankly, I don’t blame you. Up until about six months ago, I would have responded the exact same way. But Allee and I are living proof that you can find love on Tinder.
Before signing up in January of this year, I had never used any online dating sites, so you can probably imagine my skepticism. I had moved to Los Angeles only three months prior, and to that point had been wildly unsuccessful with dating. I’ve always been a gregarious, outgoing guy, and as a professional journalist and former TV and radio reporter, I’ve never thought myself to be lacking in the charisma department, so conventional ways of meeting people seemed to me much more opportune and much less shallow than some mobile app that asks you to judge someone based on your first impression of a photo.
I quickly found myself addicted to swiping in directions both left and right, and even more so to seeing the words “It’s A Match!” flash across my screen. When I first saw Alexandra (Allee) on Tinder, I’ll admit, I swiped right because I thought she was sexy. I swiped right, but got no response in the days that followed. During that time, I went out with a couple of girls, also from Tinder, but none that made me think “Wow, she’s girlfriend material.” Maybe a week after I had first swiped right, I got a notification saying that Alexandra and I matched.
I’m not sure why, but a voice in my head said ‘Message her! Now, you idiot!” I took a quick glance at her profile, which began “Independent. Sales Secretary. Sass queen.” I led with this:
Over the days that followed, Allee and I messaged constantly via Tinder. We would message each other ‘Good morning!’ every day before work and “Goodnight!’ every night before bed. I explained to Allee that I was unsure what I was looking for, because my previous girlfriend had left me abruptly, after a three year relationship, so she could explore other options in men. Allee told me she had reservations as well, because she’d been taken advantage of many times in the past. Despite my skepticism, there was something inexplicably magnetic about her personality, and I knew I had to at least give it a shot.
We continued to text and eventually made plans for dinner and a movie the following weekend, just before Valentine’s Day. Doing my best to quell my nerves when I arrived at the front door, I knocked and was greeted by a stunning, curvy blonde with a bright smile, kind eyes, and an infectious laugh. We were able to skip most of the formalities and awkwardness, since despite it being our first meeting, I felt like I knew so much about her from texting back and forth in the days prior.
The plan was to hit my preferred sushi joint, but as my luck would have it, the restaurant was closed for a private party. After having a laugh at my expense, we found a suitable substitute and bonded over our love of raw fish and Bradley Cooper films, and I regressed to a high school kid with butterflies in his stomach when she laid her head on my shoulder during the movie. We shared our first kiss that night on her doorstep. We made plans to meet again the following weekend, and went out on an impromptu Valentine’s Day date for Italian food and The Spongebob Movie: Sponge Out of Water (which we obviously loved).
Allee and I have now been together for more than half a year. We see each other several times a week, and enjoy going to baseball games, eating sushi, and going on hikes around L.A. with Allee’s German Shepard, Hazel. Allee is a thoughtful, selfless, hilarious, and generous woman. She makes me want to be the best version of myself but wouldn’t change a thing about me if you asked her. I often ask myself (and sometimes her too) what I did to deserve this. We’re incredibly happy together, and while no one can predict the future, we are planning to be that way for the foreseeable future.
The moral of the story? You never know unless you swipe (right).
Congratulations to Matt and Allee on finding their match on Tinder.
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Julie Spira is America’s Top Online Dating Expert and Digital Matchmaker. She was an early adopter of online dating and is the founder of CyberDatingExpert.com. Julie creates Irresistible Profiles for singles on the dating scene and helps them find love on Tinder with SwipingRight.com. For more dating advice, sign up for the free Weekly Flirt newsletter and follow @JulieSpira on Twitter.