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Cyber Dating Expert Love LinksHappy Friday everyone. I know some of you are superstitious, but 13 has always been a lucky number for me.

Here are some of our favorite articles of the week that were shared on Twitter and found on the web for your reading pleasure on dating, love and romance, and digital love.


How to Find Love Online This Holiday Season – On, I provided several tips on finding a terrific date on the Internet. I’m happy to report that plenty of singles are connecting and feeling a bit smitten.

Why We Need to Cuddle – On, this article caught our digital eye. Get ready for hugs, cuddling, and see why cuddling should be at the top of your list.

The Truth About Women’s Complicated Relationship With Technology – On Huffington Post, they shared the results of their poll conducted with Real Simple. Which ranks higher, the mobile phone or an intimate night with your sweetheart? Read on.

Holiday Mate Hunting Season – Cyber-Dating Expert friend Kim Calvert, Editor-in-Chief at SingularCity wrote a piece on the quest for find a date for the holidays.

Online Dating Anxiety Disorder – Is it Worse During the Holidays? – Enjoy my article on Huffington Post to calm those anxious nerves about flying solo at your holiday parties.

Scared of Being Single During the Holidays? Don’t Let it Sabotage Your Dating Life – On eHarmony Advice, this article will help you realize that the first person to love this holiday season is yourself.

Christmas Gifts for Him (That are Also for You) – Does he want an iPad or a beard trimmer? On PlentyOfFish, you’ll find 5 gifts to buy for your new date.

Why Jacks and Olivias are Lucky in Love – A new study conducted by Match in the UK says 58% of men would click on teh profile of a woman named Olivia. Would you change your profile name to attract a date?

Our favorite quote this week was from Jennifer Aniston – “A relationship isn’t going to make me survive. It’s the cherry on top.”

Wishing you much love and joy in cyberspace, or wherever you may roam.
~Julie Spira and the Cyber-Dating Expert team.

Cyber Love Links – Links to Love, When You’re in the Mood for Love

Cyber Love LinksIt’s National Romance Awareness Month, so we’re happy to share some of our favorite dating, love and romance articles on the web this week, while taking a digital moment to show our gratitude for the social media love.

This Week’s Cyber Love Links include our links to love, when you’re in the mood for love.

Elle magazine Love and relationships: The social stigma of online dating. It’s a thrill to be quoted in the August issue of Elle magazine in Canada. The results will surprise you. Yes, although I believe the stigma is gone, there are those who will still go to great lengths to hide the fact that they’ve met online. Do you fall into that category?

Betty ConfidentialYour Relationship on Social Media: Pro Tips on Mastering Netiquette. Betty’s Diana Denza asked me some great questions including, What are some things that women post on social media that have the potential to drive a date off? and “What should you say (if anything) to someone you?re dating if he has other women writing flirtatious posts on his wall?” Yes. We don’t want you to become that cyber stalker, so we hope you enjoy these tips.

YourTangoOnline Dating BootCamp – They’re live! Six full episodes of Online Dating BootCamp, where I’m helping Lauren from Beverly Hills find love on Watch our videos so you can ramp up your search while looking for love online.

Episode 1: How to Create the Perfect Profile

Episode 2: How to Write the Perfect Description

Episode 3: How to Find Your Dream Guy

Episode 4: How to Write the Perfect Intro Email

Episode 5: How to Create the Perfect Profile Photo

Episode 6: Making it Happen in the Real World

On Twitter, we shared some of our favorite articles including:

The AtlanticWhen a Relationship Becomes a Game

Huffington PostWeird Dating Sites: From Gluten-Free Singles To Hot Sauce Passions, There’s Something For You

Woman’s Day10 Important Love Lessons from ‘The Bachelorette’

Our favorite quote this week is: “Romance is thinking about your significant other, when you are supposed to be thinking about something else.” ~Nicholas Sparks

Wishing you much love and joy in cyberspace, or wherever you may roam.

~Julie Spira and the Cyber-Dating Expert Team

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Cyber Love Links – 10 Links to Love

Cyber Love LinksAs the week draws to an end, it’s time to share our 10 favorite dating articles on the web and on Twitter for your weekend reading pleasure in Cyber Love Links — Links to Love, When You’re in the Mood for Love.

1. On Thought Catalog, we enjoyed 10 Reasons Not to Give Up on Love by Chelsea Fagan. I’m sure you can relate to some, if not all of these.

2. Our friends at Men’s Fitness asked the ladies what they didn’t like about emails from male online daters. Here are their findings with Do’s and Don’ts of Online Dating.

3. On the flip side, on eHarmony, the ladies should read 10 Things Women Should Never Say to Men.

4. In time for Passover, we loved JDate’s article, Don’t Pass Over the JDate Haggadah. Will you take a date to a Seder? We’d love to know.

5. A huge Happy 5th Birthday to our friends at The Frisky. My how time flies! We’re happy to share their 15 Dating Don’ts Worth Repeating Again.

6. We enjoyed the post on Your Tango, What to Do on a 1st Date to Make Him Fall for You? Not sure about that first kiss? Read this post and put on some lip gloss.

7. In the thank you department, a huge thanks to Fox News for including our tips in Should You Ditch Online Dating?

8. So grateful to Cosmpolitan for the interview, How to Rock the Perfect Online Dating Profile Pic

9. Take a peek at my latest column on, How to Ramp up Your Online Dating Profile.

10. Really dug in with a personal story on Huffington Post in Googling Your Dates ~Can It Backfire?

Have a favorite story to share with us? Post it in our comments.

Wishing you much love and joy in cyberspace, or wherever you may roam.

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Cyber Love Links – The Week’s Best Links for Love

Cyber Love LinksIt’s time to share our favorite links to love, when you’re in the mood for love.

The last week in January was filled with tweets and articles on love in anticipation for the Super Bowl and Valentine’s Day.

Here are some of our top picks this week.

We were busy watching and tweeting from the Katie Show on the segment on ‘Catfishing.’? Her tips in How to Protect Yourself From Online Dating Scams taught us about a site, Yes, you can type in your date’s cell phone number and it will anonymously play back his or her outgoing message. Smart or creepy? We’d like your opinion.

On Dr. Phil, he interviewed the man behind the Manti Te’o scam, Ronaiah Tuiasosopo. Tuiasosopo admitted being secretly in love with the Notre Dame football player. USA Today covered the story as it unfolded.

On a lighter side, our friends at Zoosk released their 3rd Annual Football Survey in time for the Super Bowl. Want to know which coaching brother ranked highest in the romance department by Zooskers?

We loved the article on GalTime, 7 Signs He’s the Right Guy to Be Your Valentine’s Date. If you’re on the fence, it’a a must-read. On Mashable, we got a chuckle out of Ask Siri to Buy Your Next Movie Tickets. It’s a great idea for date night.

POF just announced their 6 Finalists for their $100,000 wedding contest. You can vote for your favorite couple now through February 7th.

In the gratitude department, where do we begin?

Our article 5 Valentine?s Date Ideas to Enjoy Together is on the home page of eHarmony Advice. We also shared our tips on 5 Ways to Find a Date for Valentine’s Day on On Huffington Post, my article The Perils and Joys of Online Dating, gives a healthy balance to help you find love online safely.

Speaking of safety, it’s a priority here at Cyber-Dating Expert Headquarters, so I was thrilled to be invited to be the online dating expert on the Dr. Drew Show on HLN/CNN. Here’s a peek at part of the segment. Share it with your loved ones and trust your intuition. Thanks for Kim Calvert at Singular City for featuring this as their video pick of the week.

A huge thank you to for putting me at the top of the list in their Top 10 Online Dating Experts, released this week. What an honor and joy to share the list with friends and other love experts who try to make a difference in the digital world.

Finally, thanks to the Boston Globe for quoting me in their article, Stories of love, deception have long been entwined.

We’re busy as digital bees gearing up for Valentine’s Day with a few surprise and exciting announcements to come.

Wishing you much love and joy in cyberspace, or wherever you may roam.

~Julie and the Cyber-Dating Expert Team

Julie Spira is a top online dating expert and founder of She creates irresistible profiles for singles on the dating scene and is the author of the bestseller, The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online. For more online dating advice, follow @JulieSpira on Twitter and at

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Cyber Love Links

Cyber Love Links

In time for the weekend, we’re sharing our favorite articles and tweets this week, along with a few thanks to our special friends for including us in their stories.

Our favorite quote this week was, “Don’t be a woman who needs a man. Be a woman a man needs.” We thought it was worth sharing.

A special thank you to AARP who featured our advice for dating safely online, in Spanish. We had a blast using to find the title of,?Meet Your Next Love Online, Safely. The timing was perfect as it was in conjunction with MTV’s premiere of the TV show, Catfish. We know many people lie in their online dating profiles, but some take it even further. In Catfish, a woman thought she was dating a hot male model, only to find out in person that her online beau was actually a woman who had been bullied in school.

When I first wrote The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online, I had fallen for a handsome attorney from across the country. After 5 hours of communicating every day for three months, we finally met in person. Not only was he not recognizable, but he had a wife at home who didn’t know about his double-identity. When I figured out the truth, he removed his profile and created a new one under a new user name. Not everyone lies and there are many stories in our Cyber Love Story of the Week that we enjoy sharing. So do remember to practice your online dating safety rules and know that online dating sites take the safety of their members seriously. If you meet someone deceptive, report them to the dating site.

The lessons we’ll learn from Catfish and other sharing their stories is to trust your intuition, take your time, and meet as soon as possible in-real-life, so you don’t become digital pen-pals and get your heart broken. A SKYPE date for a long-distance relationship will hopefully help you see the object of your digital affection sooner, rather than later. Future episodes will air on Mondays at 11pm/ET, 10pm/CT.

Other stories we loved this week included MYAKA’s INFOGRAPHIC called A Single Woman Enters the Bar. From having an exit strategy to did they ask for your number, you’ll enjoy this dating advice and may recognize a type or two.

Our friends at eHarmony contributed a guest post this week called, Filter and Flirt: How to Find Love Online. They’re having another Free Weekend through Monday and calling it Ready, Set Love! Click here to sign up to find a date for the holidays. On Buzzfeed, Amy Odell writes about Tyra Banks giving online dating advice to create the perfect profile photo. Our friend Alan Roger Currie wrote about his take on the General Petraeus affair on and Match Happen magazine featured an article, Online Daters Reveal Why They Got in Touch, that we really enjoyed.

Have a wonderful weekend.

Wishing you much love and joy in cyberspace, or wherever you may roam.

Julie Spira is an online dating expert and founder of She creates irresistible profiles for singles on the dating scene. For more dating advice, sign up for our Weekly Flirt, follow @JulieSpira on Twitter and like us at


Cyber Love Links – Links to Love When You’re in the Mood for Love

Cyber Love Links

Happy Friday. It’s time for our weekend wrap up of Cyber Love Links.

We’re always so grateful to thank those who have featured us or mentioned our dating advice, but also love sharing some of our favorite tweets and stories on the web for your reading pleasure.

A huge thank you to Men’s Fitness, where we were quoted in two stories this week, 10 Little Ways to Kill Your Online Dating Game from Meredith Bogas and Answers from a Hot Girl: Do Women Really Want Chivalry? from our friend Jenna Birch. We say yes! Chivalry is still alive and well, so men we love it when you stand out from the most and do open the door for us. Thank you to Best Dating Sites for listing @JulieSpira as one of the Top Experts on Dating and Relationship Advice on Twitter.

Worried about online dating safety? So are we. Thank you to NBC News in Raleigh who did an in-depth story and including our safety tips called An Online Dating Horror Story. We’re not here to scare you, but are committed to helping you spot the red flags to enjoy your online dating journey. Gratitude to Prevention magazine for being featured in Text Mistakes You’re Making. How to Improve Your Text Life With These 6 Tips.

On Twitter, our friends at Mashable just posted Four Steps for Using Your Mobile Device to Jumpstart Your Love Life. So grab your lipstick and change your location-based-options and let us know how you like it. We also retweeted Ask Men’s video on Long Distance Relationships. Yes, they can be tough, but you can keep the spark alive through texting, tweeting, and Skyping so absence will make the heart grown fonder instead of making it go wander.

Our friend Natasha Burton wrote a terrific post on iVillage, Dating Online? Watch Out For These Red Flags to Avoid Distasters. On eHarmony Advice, we enjoyed, In Online Dating: Who Should Make the First Move? Ladies, men do love a little nudge here and there.

Finally, one of our favorite article was featured in the Los Angeles Times, The Dating Game’s Rebooting Call, featuring new fun niche dating sites.

Wishing you much love and joy in cyberspace, or wherever you may roam.

~Julie and the Cyber-Dating Expert Team

Julie Spira is a leading online dating expert and bestselling author of The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online. She creates irresistible profiles for singles on the dating scene. For more dating advice, follow @JulieSpira on Twitter,? like, and sign up for the Weekly Flirt newsletter.


Cyber Love Links – Favorite Dating Links and Tweets

Cyber Love Links

For your reading pleasure, it’s time to pay digital homage and share our favorite dating tweets and links for the week, with a few thank you’s tossed in as well.

On Huffington Post Women, they posted their top tweets of the week, including one from @TracyClarkFlory: My boyfriend: “My mom looked you up on the Internet.” #scarysentences. Yes it’s true. Your mother cares, but to Google your date for you?

My friend Dr. Terri Orbuch was quoted on the Wall Street Journal in The 5 Lessons Divorced People Learn About Marriage. Great for those starting over again.

If you decide to go on a Skype date or video chat with your new digital crush, our friends at Mashable posted 5 tips on how to look good on video chat. We shared Mobile Dia’s “5 Apps for the Romantically Challenged” and The Toronto Sun’s article, “Online Dating Means e-mail Overload for Women.” My pal Jennifer at Bad Online Dates? shared a guest post from Liz at We Love Dates, “What to Do if You’re in Love With More Than One Man.” It’s a must-read so you don’t end up with the wrong guy or alone from a juggling act that went south.

For the gratitude section of Cyber Love Links, a huge thank you to The Ricki Lake Show for sharing my tweet on “Who Should Follow Up After a First Date?”? and to We Love Dates for retweeting, “To Wink, or Not to Wink.” I’d also like to thank Damona for having me as a guest on “Dates & Mates with Dear Mrs. D” this week. They’ll be posting the link on Monday and we’ll be sure to share it with you.

It seems everyone loves dating shows these days. I adored Faye Brennan’s interview on YourTango with Alex Miranda, host of the new dating show ‘3.’ Speaking of dating shows, if you’re in Los Angeles and would like to be on a new Bravo TV show, they’ll be casting single online daters at the Viceroy Hotel on Monday night. I’ll be there as well, so say hello and RSVP on Facebook.

Our favorite quote of the week was, “A good life is when you smile often, dream big, laugh a lot and realize how blessed you are for what you have.”

Wishing you much love and joy in cyberspace, or wherever you may roam.

~Julie Spira and the Cyber-Dating Expert Team

Julie Spira is an online dating expert, bestselling author, and Editor-in-Chief at She creates irresistible profiles for singles on the dating scene and helps them shorten their search to ride off into the digital sunset. For dating advice, join our Weekly Flirt and like us at

Cyber Love Links

Cyber Love Links

It’s time to take a moment and share some of our favorite articles about dating, love and romance in a Web 2.0 World that we shared on Twitter and thank those for including Cyber-Dating Expert’s advice in their stories.

A huge thank you to our friends at Mashable who posted two stories, How Social Media Helps Romantic Relationships Thrive and 10 Dating Apps To Help You Find True Love. Both were tweeted over 1300 times each. Thank you from the bottom of my digital heart for including our Mobile Dating BootCamp in the story.

On Twitter, Kathleen Miles from Huffington Post alerted me to the new risque billboard on Sunset Boulevard for dating site Cougar Life, so I shared it on the LA Dating Advice column on Examiner in, Is Sunset Boulevard the New Home for Cougars? I’ll let you decide.

Thank you to Online Personals Watch for sharing and contributing to Dating in a Mobile World. Mobile Dating BootCamp contestant videos should be posted shortly and we’ll start casting for Season 2, to be held in Las Vegas. Best Background Checks posted Experts Reveal 7 Tips for Safer Online Dating,

If you missed the Magnetizing Love Telesummit, you can catch our 25 Twitter Secrets to Finding Love Online and catch up in a few minutes. Our friends at GalTime posted a great article, Getting Rid of Past Loves, which we had to share on Twitter. Sometimes it takes awhile to knock your ex of his or her pedestal. This article should help. We tweeted The Phoenix New Times article, The Seven Strangest Online Dating Sites and was surprised to see sites for dating with food allergies and dating a redhead.

You can share your dating stories in our Peril of the Week and remember our friends at Bad Online Dates and ABC’s 20/20 are looking for your videos on dating disasters, so keep your iPhone handy and start shooting away.

Wishing you much love and joy in cyberspace, or wherever you may roam.

Julie Spira and the Cyber-Dating Expert Team.

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Cyber Love Links – Links to Love, When You’re in the Mood for Love

Cyber Love LinksWe’re still in the merry month of May, which has been proclaimed Romance Month. So if you have a digital crush on someone or would like to reconnect with a former college flame, reach out and feel the love.

It’s that time of the week where we take a moment to share the articles on the web and Twitter as well as thank those who have featured Cyber-Dating Expert in their many articles.

First with the gratitude: Thank you to GenConnect and our friend Laurel House, Quickie Chick for the great video interview, How to Create You Love Life Resume. Sure we know you don’t want to look at online dating like a chore or a job, but here are some tips to ramp up your search. Also, a huge thank you to YourTango who collected a group of experts for a 7-Day Love Your Body series. We wish women wouldn’t feel so insecure about their appearance. Men do love the real you, so enjoy our advice in 16 Things You Hate About Your Body That Men Love. The Friends of Ricki community shared our FOX News video on their Facebook page for their relationship Tuesday topic, so stop by and say hello! Our article, To Text or Not to Text: Crazy Dating Texts That Went Viral was shared by everyone who prays they never become that girl or guy.

On Twitter, some of our favorite stories included Huffington Post Weddings: How to Stop Money Problems in Your Marriage Before They Start. Do men think you’ll go to bed with them on the first date if you wear red? I say no. YourTango Experts say yes. Let us know what you think. Our friend Jeannie Assimos at eHarmony Advice posted a great article, Online Dating Wisdom from Hall and Oates. On The Rules of Netiquette, we shared Texting While Walking Will Cost You a Ticket. Better sit on a park bench to let your date know you’re running late. Match just announced their events for singles as well as Beyond the Wink: Games to play online. Let us know what you think.

We’re getting ready to launch the Mobile Dating Bootcamp and next week you’ll meet our contestants!

Our favorite quote of the week came from Sir Paul McCartney: “And, in the end the love you take is equal to the love you make.”

Wishing you much love and joy in cyberspace, or wherever you may roam.

Julie Spira and the Cyber-Dating Expert Team.

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Cyber Love Links – Mother’s Day Edition

Cyber Love Links

It’s Mother’s Day weekend and May has also been proclaimed Romance Month, so there’s no shortage of fabulous stories about dating, love and romance on the web and on Twitter.

Let’s start with overwhelming amount of gratitude for all the media mentions this week. Monday started out with a terrific TV promo shoot for the upcoming Ricki Lake Show. I was honored to participate along with others in the Friends of Ricki community. Here’s a sneak peek of a hug from Ricki on location posted on Twitter.

On Tuesday, Dr. Drew Pinsky featured a segment on and asked me to chime in with my thoughts on the subject. It was an honor to be featured as one of 30 influential women in the Speakerpalooza series on Wednesday.? Enjoy the article, Dating Online? 5 Secrets to Finding Love Again. We’ve got free books to give away, so make sure to comment on the post. On Wednesday we also announced the first-ever Mobile Dating Bootcamp.

On Thursday, I was honored to be featured as one of America’s Ultimate Experts in Woman’s World magazine. The issue is now available at most grocery store check out stands. Check out page 26, I want more romance in my life! Lastly, I’d like to thank our friends at iVillage for the contribution to The Rules: Dos and Don’ts for Online Dating. Whew! There’s enough dating advice to last you through the summer romance season. None of this excitement could be possible if it wasn’t for the continuing support from you, our loyal readers and students.

What stories were hot this week? The Time magazine Mother’s Day cover story has gone viral. Yahoo! posted the story Jamie Lynne Grumet Defends Her Time Magazine Breastfeeding Cover from an interview on? “Today Show.” On YourTango, We Love Dates posted the 4 Things You Should Never Say on a First Date and we couldn’t agree more. Be authentic, but stay positive and leave the drama at home. Clutch posted 3 Things We Wish Men Would Leave Off Their Online Dating Profiles and our friends at Match featured a timely article in Happen magazine, Dating a Mom on Mother’s Day with a reminder not to overwhelm her if you’re in a new relationship. It’s not Valentine’s Day.

Wishing you much love and joy in cyberspace, or wherever you may roam.

Happy Mother’s Day.

Julie Spira and the Cyber-Dating Expert Team.

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