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How to Flirt BIG TIME on St. Patrick’s Day

Cyber Dating ExpertSt. Patrick’s Day is here, and it’s time to get into the spirit of this flirty holiday.

Years ago, I would wear a button that said “Kiss Me, I’m Irish,” even though there was not a speck of Irish blood in me.

To help you flirt, big time and to ramp up your digital flirting skills, here’s the online dating expert’s guide to flirting on St. Patrick’s Day.

 

1. Send a flirty text. Texting the the person you have a crush on to say “Happy St. Patrick’s Day” will brighten their day. Add a four-leaf clover emoji. Even if they aren’t Irish, chances are they’ll reply to you.

2. Wear green. Find the tackiest flashing buttons, goofiest, hats, and make sure to wear something green to celebrate. It’s the easiest way to strike up a conversation with someone on St. Patrick’s Day.

3. Change your dating profile. It’s time to mix it up online. Post a photo wearing something green, ask if someone wants to get lucky in love, post quotes about the luck of the Irish and St. Patrick’s Day on your profiles and on social media. Get bolder and post “Kiss me if you’re Irish.” Start swiping right in the morning on Tinder, Bumble, or other mobile dating apps to find a date by the afternoon.

4. Send a GIF. Open your mobile dating app and send a GIF to your digital crush. These days, apps such as Tinder, Bumble, or even Twitter are using Giphy. Send a fun animated GIF to someone you’ve been chatting with to spice up the convo.

5. Send an animated e-card. We’re big fans of JibJab!, where you send a customized a video or e-card starring you. It will come complete with background music and is guaranteed to give a smile or two.

6. Smile everywhere you go. A smile is contagious and everyone wants to be around someone who appears to be happy. Practice the 5-second stare while smiling at someone you would like to meet. It’s the cue for them to come over and wish you a “Happy St. Patrick’s Day.” Who knows where the conversation will lead?

7. Compliment everyone. You might normally run away from the guy with the tacky green tee shirt, but stop and say hello. Take it one step further and pose in a ‘selfie’ together. He won’t be able to help himself and will put his arm around you for the photo. If the sparks start to fly, it’s your invitation to continue the conversation. Be even bolder and post it, with permission of course, on Facebook or Instagram.

8. Find a parade. Go to a St. Patrick’s Day parade in your city. Everyone loves a parade and it will give you an excuse to start a conversation with those you end up bundled up with.

 

9. Go to the dog park. There’s a reason it’s called puppy love. Put a green bandana on your dog’s collar and take a walk to the local dog park. Your dog will do the flirting for you and it will be a great conversation starter.

10. Make a Shamrock Shake. We have a healthy recipe for a Shamrock Shake that you’ll absolutely love and it can be a fun date idea. If you aren’t into buying the ingredients, and are flying solo, head to Starbucks for a coffee date and order a green tea Frappuccino, or go to a sushi bar and order green tea and green tea ice cream.

 

Wishing you much love, luck, and joy in cyberspace, or wherever you may roam.

Julie Spira is America’s Top online dating expert and mobile dating expert. She’s the founder of CyberDatingExpert.com and has been coaching singles on finding love online with her Irresistible Profiles for over 20 years.

Julie’s the bestselling author of The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online.

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It’s Tuesday Game Night on Chemistry


Happy Tuesday!

Chemistry.com? is making it more fun and easy to use their online dating site. If you haven’t tried their Tuesday Game Night, now’s the time to log on and play.

From 6pm – midnight, Central Time.

Here’s how it works:

1. Flirt and enjoy 2 Chemistry Starters, free with any of your matches.

2. Send an email after the Chemistry Starters are complete.

3. Subscribe to keep the communication going after the event is over.

Who know’s? Your Halloween date might be with someone you’ll meet ?tonight!

How To Flirt On Halloween

Cyber-Dating Expert HalloweenThere’s no doubt about it. Halloween is one of the most fun holidays for singles and couples of all ages. Dressing up for Halloween is an absolute must. Halloween costume stores start popping up in August and visits to the pumpkin patch are in abundance.

So how does a single person enjoy this fun and flirty holiday? I believe that Halloween gives you permission to jump out of your comfort zone and become more approachable. Besides the youthful trick-or-treaters ringing your doorbell,? singles holiday parties are in abundance. I suggest you RSVP to as many as possible, grab a few friends and go out with a smile on your face along with a devilish grin.

In preparation for Halloween, it’s also a good time to brush up on your flirting skills. Dr. Pat Allen, author of “Getting to I Do” and one of my mentors,? teaches the 5-second flirt technique and encourages singles to flirt with 5 men every day and gaze into their eyes for five very long seconds. ?Although it’s a challenge and may seem like an eternity, on Halloween it should be a piece of cake, or at least a handful of candy corn.

Let’s start with selecting your sexy Halloween costume. Although you wouldn’t dress like this on a first date, you now have permission to show some skin without the expectation of jumping into the bedroom. Some of my favorites are from Leg Avenue. Check out the selection at Pure Delish, will give you free shipping on orders of $75 or more.

Halloween Cheerleader Costume

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1. The Cheerleader. What guy didn’t fantasize about being with a cheerleader in high school? Now’s his chance with this sexier version guaranteed to put a smile on his face. Cost $38.

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2. The French Maid. This class Halloween costume never goes out of style. Now’s your chance to flirt with him with your duster in tow. Who knows just where he might be ticklish? Cost $65.

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Halloween - Queen of Hearts

3. Queen of Hearts. Poker night will never be the same after he sees you in this Queen of Hearts outfit. Approach him and make a bet. See if he ups the ante. ?Price $75.

Now that you have your costume selections ready to go, look at your local calendar section for Halloween parties. From charity events to speed dating to Haunted House parties, there are events going on all week long. Take advantage of the fact that Halloween is on a Sunday. That means from Thursday-Sunday you can get the most of out of your Halloween costume and practice the art of flirting on men who are dressed like Tarzan and George Clooney.

Don’t forget to bring your camera or Flip video and set your camera settings to movie. Go up to that cute guy and compliment him on his costume and ask if you can take his photo. Better yet, jump into the shot and have your friend take a picture of you and that hot guy. Then ask him if you can friend him on Facebook or email him the photos.

At the end of the week, you can memorialize your Halloween festivities in a video on YouTube or upload the photos to Facebook. Go ahead and tag him, he’ll be flattered that you took the time to do so.

Julie Spira is a worldwide authority in online dating and a dating advice columnist. Visit her at CyberDatingExpert.com where you can share your Internet dating stories. Follow her on Twitter @JulieSpira.

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Free Communication Weekend on Chemistry.com


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It’s back and just in time for spring fever! The ever-so-popular *Free* Weekend on Chemistry.com.

Starting on Friday, March 26 and going through Sunday, March 28, you can flirt, communicate, and connect for *Free* on this popular online dating site.

You may have heard Dr. Helen Fisher, creator of Chemistry’s personality profile as a guest on Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert radio show. She gave excellent dating advice about how to attract real love based upon your personality type.

Now is your chance to enjoy your cyberdating free weekend on Chemistry.com.

How to Flirt on St. Patrick’s Day

I shared some of my favorite flirting techniques today in my LA Dating Advice Column on Examiner.com. It’s not too late to grab something green in your closet, find a friend, and let the flirting begin.

Now that Valentine’s Day is a distant memory, ?we survived the Ides of March and are in the middle of March Madness, ?it’s time to celebrate St. Patrick’s Day. Whether you know the history of St. Patrick or not, it’s the perfect time to brush up on your flirting skills to get ready for spring fever.

You don’t need to be Irish to get into the spirit. Practice these flirting skills and you’ll likely have a date on your calendar before the weekend.

1. Wear a green button that says, “Kiss me if you’re Irish.” Chances are you’ll get at least a smile, if not a peck on the cheek.

2. Grab some friends and go to your local watering hole. You don’t need to drink green beer, or anything green for that matter, to get into the spirit. While standing in line, comment on someone’s outfit who has caught your attention. It’s the kind of day where approaching others isn’t just accepted, it’s expected.

3. Pick up a green carnation for your date. This would have been tacky on Valentine’s Day, but on St. Patrick’s Day, it’s worth a chuckle and shows your date that you took the time to think of him or her.

4. Smile. A smile is contagious. Practice the 5-second stare while smiling at someone you would like to meet. It’s the cue for them to come over and wish you a Happy St. Patrick’s Day. Who knows where the conversation will lead.

5. Bring a camera or your iPhone and take photos. Compliment the guy with the tacky green tee shirt and take his photo. It will start the conversation. Chances are he’ll ask to see the shot and may even ask you to take another one. You’ll be engaging and entertaining at the same time.

Keep in mind St. Patrick’s Day is the perfect time to practice the art of flirting. Go ahead and wear that green button that flashes to draw attention. If you are not one to visit a local pub, go to a public place and wear green and start smiling. Go ahead and put a green bandana on your dog’s collar and go to the local dog park. You have permission to do it all.

Julie Spira, the Cyber-Dating Expert is the author of The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online. Visit her at CyberDatingExpert.com where you can sign up for The Weekly Flirt and receive dating advice.

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