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Join Me at iDate in Las Vegas

Come one, come all to the Internet Dating Conference, the largest conference about online dating!

The 40th iDate Conference will be held at the Tropicana Hotel on January 20-22, 2015 and I’ll be on hand on three panels and will be presenting the Best Mobile Dating App at the iDate Awards on the evening of January 21st.

Here’s the rundown of events for Online Dating Expert Julie Spira

  • Wednesday, January 21: CNN Panel: Focus on Content Marketing and Industry Trends – 3:30pm Cohiba 6 & 7
  • Wednesday, January 21: iDate Awards – 7pm, Tropicana, Cohiba Ballroom 1
  • Thursday, January 22: Essence Panel – How Date Experts on How to Use PR and Build Their Brand – 1:30pm
  • Thursday, January 22: Final Debate: 4pm

For a $50 discount and to purchase tickets and register for iDate, click here.

View our video below for details on the panels.

I’ll see you in Las Vegas!

Follow @JulieSpira for online dating advice.

Getting Ready for the 10th Annual iDate Conference

idate2013-301-92So you think you’d like to start a dating service or perhaps are interested in the online dating industry.

The 10th Annual iDate (Internet dating) Conference is just a few days away in Las Vegas.

This is the most comprehensive three days of deep knowledge about the dating industry.

I’ll be moderating the online dating focus group on Thursday, January 17th, as well as being a presenter at the evening’s annual iDate Awards.

Marc Lesnick, iDate Conference Organizer has curated over 70 panelists, including Dr. Neil Clark Warren who founded eHarmony, Larry Magid from CBS News, and a large group of offline matchmakers.

Registration details are here: I hope to see you there.

Science or Luck – The Great Online Dating Debate

By now you?ve probably heard the good news. Online Dating has officially lost its stigma and now ranks second in the U.S. for matchmaking.? Whether you?ve met your dream date or spouse by answering 250 questions on eHarmony or answered some intimate questions on OkCupid, one thing?s for sure, online dating is no longer for the socially challenged. It?s here to stay and is now residing primarily on your mobile phone or iPad.

A group of 5 researchers collected data on the subject to be published in the February issue of the Journal for the Association of Psychological Science. These experts claim that these dating algorithms are nonsense. The report claims that online dating encourages a ?shopping mentality? and that singles are getting too picky with too many choices. Do you agree? Is it just the luck of the draw, or is there some magic to the proprietary methods Internet dating sites use to keep you engaged and active on their site?

Dating algorithms and scientific matching were a subject of heated panel at the recent Internet Dating Conference in Miami, where Dr. Eli J. Finkel, the study?s lead author and an associate professor of social psychology at Northwestern University, said there was no science behind the algorithms. OkCupid?s CEO and co-founder Sam Yagan and Dr. Pepper Schwartz, professor of sociology at the University of Washington in Seattle, who created the Personality Profiler for online dating site Perfect Match, vehemently disagreed. The sites stood by their list of questions to help singles meet better matches, whether through math or science.

At the end of the digital day, online dating has become social dating, and it?s not going away anytime soon.

How do you feel about personality profiles on Chemistry, Perfect Match, and Do you believe you?ll get better matches? Are you finding it hard to commit with too many choices in your inbox?

Your comments are welcome and appreciated.

Julie Spira is an online dating expert and bestselling author of The Perils of Cyber-Dating.? Visit her at for dating advice and follow Julie on Twitter @JulieSpira and at

And the Winners Are? iDate Awards for Best Dating Sites

Julie Spira at the iDate Awards

with Lifetime Achievement Award Recipient Gary Kremen

You might have your favorite online dating site, but did you know the Internet dating industry actually has their own awards ceremony, similar to the Academy Awards?

iDate Conference organizer Marc Lesnick emceed the 3rd Annual iDate Awards ceremony along with Mark Brooks from Online Personals Watch. It was an honor and privilege to also be a presenter at the event held in Miami Beach on January 24, 2012.

The Internet Dating Executive Alliance and dating site members and users had the opportunity to vote.for their favorites in 12 categories.

OkCupid walked away with 3 iDate awards, received by Sam Yagan, CEO and co-founder of the site. Gary Kremen, known for creating online dating back in 1993 by being the original creator of received a well-deserved special Lifetime Achievement Award. Gary?was a Keynote speaker earlier in the day,

The complete list of winners are?.

Best Dating Site – OkCupid

Best Dating Site Design ? OkCupid

Best Dating Software Provider – White Label Dating

Best Mobile Dating App ? Grindr

Best Dating Coach ? Evan Marc Katz

Most Innovative Company ? OkCupid

Best New Technology ? Grindr

Best Up-And-Coming Dating Site ? How About We

Best Marketing Campaign ?

Best Affiliate Program ? FriendFinder

Best Payment System ?

Best Matchmaker ? Julie Ferman, Cupids Coach/eLove

We’ll be posting video highlights from the conference with the latest in online dating safety, mobile dating, and letting you know about some of the new niche sites that might help while looking for love online.

Julie Spira is an online dating expert and founder of Follow Julie on Twitter @JulieSpira for dating advice and on


Vote for your Favorite Online Dating Site – iDate Awards

If there were Academy Awards given for the best Internet dating sites, it would be at the annual Internet Dating Conference, held in Miami Beach, Florida on January 23 -30, 2012.

This year, you can vote for your favorite online dating site, favorite mobile dating app and more. The last day to vote is January 4, 2012, so grab your iPad, iPhone, BlackBerry and log onto to cast your vote.

This year, iDate will include a special post-conference cruise to the Bahamas.

Winners of the iDate Awards will be announced at the 9th Annual iDate Super Conference on January 24, 2012. Cyber-Dating Expert is proud to be a media sponsor of the iDate 2012 Conference. We’ll be reporting on the latest dating trends and will keep you posted on the latest developments.


Internet Dating Conference Highlights [video]

According to Internet Dating Conference organizer Marc Lesnick, the industry is happy. Over 250 online dating executives attended the 8th annual iDate show at the SLS Hotel in Beverly Hills, where the subject was focused on mobile dating.

I had the opportunity to interview Robinne Burrell, Director of Mobile Products at; Mark Brooks, editor of Online Personals Watch; Monica Ohara, Director of Marketing for SpeedDate, and Joel Simkhai, founder of Grindr about their mobile dating services.

Julie Spira is an online dating expert and bestselling author of The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online. Visit her at and

Getting Social at the Internet Dating Conference

Julie Ferman and Julie Spira

Matchmaker of the Year Julie Ferman and Julie Spira

It was a pleasure attending the 8th Annual Internet Dating Conference in Miami again, where I had the honor to speak on Web Dating 2.0: Using Social Media to Create Brand Loyalty on January 20, 2011.

Several hundred people attended the session on day 2 of the 3-day conference.

Going Mobile

In my presentation, I shared the exciting news that both Zoosk Mobile and SpeedDate Mobile apps have each had more than 2 million downloads.? OkCupid’s mobile app has over 1 million mobile users. eHarmony says their mobile apps account for approximately 20% of global site visits. Consumers now look at eHarmony profiles more than 16,000 times per hour while using mobile devices.? Their mobile app was launched in August, 2009 in conjunction with their 10th anniversary. Match says mobile users are twice as engaged as those who log onto the site on their desktop, so we are definitely going mobile.

Record Highs

We learned from Online Personals Watch Publisher Mark Brooks that online dating hit a record high in December 2010 with 116 million members worldwide visiting online dating sites. Over 20 million visits were from U.S. members. The folks from Google shared that 35 hours of video content is uploaded on YouTube every minute of the day. Online dating is a 1.3 billion dollar industry now according to Jupiter Research.

iDate Awards

One of the highlights of the conference was the 2nd annual iDate Awards. This year OkCupid won 4 iDate Awards including Best Dating Site, Best Dating Site Design, Most Innovative Company, and Best Up and Coming Dating Site. Congratulations to OkCupid for winning in every category that they were nominated in and matching the number of Golden Globe Awards received as The Social Network film. My friend Julie Ferman won the Best Matchmaker Award for the second year in a row and it was certainly well deserved.

Getting Social

It was terrific spending time with Sherri Langburt from Single Edition, Ravit Abelman from Omnidate,? Julie Ferman from Cupid’s Coach, and eLove’s Paul Falzone while catching up with Sam Yagan from OkCupid and Kate Billenki from Plenty of Fish. All have been featured guests on Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert Radio Show. Dating blogger Simone Grant came to iDate for her first time and we brainstormed about dating, blogging, and social media.

The Final Debate

The conference ended with the Final Panel Debate curated by Marc Lesnick, Conference Organizer and included Mark McMaster from Google, Mark Brooks from Online Personals Watch, Michael McQuown from Thunder Road, Jonathan Crutchley from Manhunt, Mark Harrison from Dating Factory, Joel Simkhal from Grindr, Markus Frind from Plenty of Fish, Sam Yagan from OkCupid, Ty from Elite Global Dating and Dan Winchester from At the end of the annual end of conference panel, the majority of the panelists felt that online dating would continue to grow in 2011.

Free Versus Paid

The hot topic this year was Free versus Paid online dating sites. Free sites have been rising in popularity and have made a small dent in the paid online dating services. Compared to the cost of high-end matchmakers, paid online dating sites are still a bargain.

To view my presentation, visit

Dating 2.0 at the Internet Dating Conference

Next week will be an exciting time for online dating industry professionals. Many of us will gather in South Beach in Miami on January 19th – 21st? for the 8th annual Internet Dating Conference, known to many simply as iDate.

Once again I have been selected to speak about Dating 2.0: How to Create Brand Loyalty on the Web on January 20th at 3:30pm at the Miami Convention Center. I’ll be talking about the marriage of love and technology and how to develop your brand through the use of social media marketing. It’s an honor to be among the leading Internet industry executives and matchmakers including Mark Brooks, Publisher of Online Personals Watch;? Julie Ferman, Founder of Cupid’s Coach; Paul Falzone from eLove; Markus Frind, founder of Plenty of Fish; and Joel Simkhai from Grindr.

One of the hot topics led by Conference Organizer Marc Lesnick will be the session on free online dating sites and what they mean to the industry. Marc’s presentation will be held on January 21st at 2:00pm.

The Internet Dating Conference will be held concurrently with the Social Networking Conference where Mark Brooks will be presenting the 2010 Year in Review at both conferences. The topics of mobile dating and location based services will be of great interest to many of the attendees.

I’ll be on site with video updates and live tweeting from both conferences. For more information, visit

We’d love to hear your comments and feedback. Are you currently a member of an online dating site? Do you use mobile dating applications? Do you think Facebook dating will become more popular?

Julie Spira is an online dating expert and author of the bestseller, The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online. Visit her at Follow Julie on Twitter @Julie Spira and like her at

Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert Radio Show with Cupid’s Coach

Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert Radio Show

Ask the Cyber-Dating Expert

On Saturday, September 25, 2010 join Julie Spira as she welcomes Julie Ferman, Founder and President of Cupid?s Coach to Ask the?Cyber Dating Expert Radio Show.

Julie Ferman, named Matchmaker of the Year at the Internet Dating Conference, will share her dating tips and advice for singles looking for love online. ?She also recently appeared on NBC?s new dating show, ?The Match Off.”

Call in at 646-929-0012 at 2pm/ET, 12 noon/CT, 10am/PT with your questions and to learn more about dating, love and romance in a Web 2.0 World.

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iDate 2010 Update – The Internet Dating Conference

Julie Spira at iDate

Ravit Abelman, Omnidate and Julie Spira, Cyber-Dating Expert at iDate

Twice a year the online dating industry gathers in the U.S. to discuss the latest trends in Internet dating. The conference, called iDate, was held last week in Beverly Hills at the SLS Hotel concurrently with the Social Networking Conference. The event started with a 3 hour presentation by Google followed by the evening party at the Stone Rose Lounge hosted by Elitemate.

This year I was a speaker and presenter on Web 2.0 Dating: Using Social Media to Create Brand Loyalty.

I spoke about Twitter marriage proposals and celebrity breakups and how Facebook has become the third largest country in the world. Social media is successfully keeping users engaged and informed with meaningful updates, dating advice, and well-deserved bragging rights of their success stories.

One of the examples of dating 2.0 I spoke about was, social dating site Zoosk. Zoosk has done an excellent job in creating brand loyalty through social media. When they reached their 1 millionth “fan” on Facebook, they celebrated by creating a video called What is a Milion to thank those who now like their page. They posted?it on the Zoosk blog, on their Facebook page where over 200 fans commented and over 600 said they liked it. ?They posted their video on their YouTube channel for Zoosk TV,?where they have over 4500 views for this one celebratory video.

Other examples I presented included online dating newcomer, Brainiac Dating. Their Facebook page features profiles and photos of singles looking for love online. Several online dating sites use social media to engage their fans. eHarmony‘s Facebook page gives advice to daters. A sample update of theirs is, “Picnics make great casual dates, especially in the summer. What are some good picnic ideas?” Lavalife has a contest on their page where you can vote for the Top 10 singles. congratulates their success couple of the week, and JDate include their success stories on their pages.

I provided a list of online dating sites on Twitter. Sample tweets from online dating sites included eHarmony_Jack: “Are you in love or are you infatuated?” ?Match “How do you break up with someone you met online? 25% of Happen readers said on the telephone.” OkCupid: “Speaking of faced and attractiveness..has the recession made you more beautiful?”

iDate 2010 - The Final Debate at the Internet Dating Conference

I participated in the conference highlight, The Final Debate, along with Elitemate’s CEO Victor Daniel, Mark Brooks from Online Personals Watch, Karinna Kittles-Karsten from Sacred Love, Tai Lopez from Niche Enterprises, Violet Lim from?Lunch Actually,?and Frederick Vallaeys from Google adwords.

Mobile dating was clearly a hot topic at the conference. Thank you to Marc Lesnick, head of the Internet Dating Conference and Mark Brooks from Courtland Brooks for the opportunity to speak at this well-respected event about Dating 2.0 and Social Media.

The next two Internet Dating Conference events will be held in Paris, France on September 15-17, 2010 and in Miami, Florida on January 19-21, 2011. If you missed my presentation and would like to hear more, contact me at or Social Media and More.

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