Listen to the Peter Tilden Show on KABC Radio in Los Angeles, with solo guest host Lisa Guerrero, who asked me to join in to help her navigate the waters of Tinder dating. Lisa said she is happily married, so she’s not a part of the Tinder generation and mobile dating apps. It was a fun and interesting conversation.
Some of the questions about online dating and mobile dating included:
LISA: Vanity Fair wrote a juicy recent article on Tinder and the hookup culture. What in the world is a tinder hookup culture and why is it ruining romance?
JULIE: Some people think it’s ruining romance, but it comes down to everyone’s swiping. We’re living in a swiping world. Everyone is swiping right and left on Tinder as a “hot or not” like a game to keep playing.
LISA: So someone gets this app and through this app they can see their picture and decide whether to swipe right or left and decide to connect with that person or dump them. Apparently what this Is this generation hooking up?
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JULIE: It’s easier to hook up because you go onto your mobile phone, a location-based app. You can find someone a few miles away and boom you’ve got a date.
LISA: In the VF story it’s reported 100 million people are using mobile apps with 50 million on Tinder. The Tinder blog reports 25 million matches a day.
JULIE: It’s huge. The numbers are enormous. Just because they are swiping doesn’t mean they’re meeting IRL. If you don’t take your relationship offline, you just have a digital pen-pal or someone you’re texting with.
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LISA: So Julie, if I’m on a bar and I’m single, I can see the possibilities of people who want to
JULIE: As long as you’re a mutual match. If I swipe right, the guy’s got to swipe right too and then you get a push notification that you have a mutual match and can start sending texts to each other.
LISA: This is based simply on links. Your only impression of the person is their picture, right?
JULIE: For men, it’s based on looks and they don’t even read the profile. They just keep swiping right as it’s a numbers game. Women tend to be more methodical. They look at profiles before they decide to swipe right or left.
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LISA: Back in the olden dates, things moved really slow. You went on dates and went from first-base to second-base. What I’m understanding on Tinder, if that a guy is interested he sends [naked] picks. Julie do you think this is a short term way of meeting people or can you find a long term relationship?
JULIE: A lot of people looking for a relationship are also going on Tinder.
There will always be people looking to hookup and always people looking for love. They’re both playing in the same digital playground now.
KABC producer Miriam tried Tinder for 2 weeks to get an idea for the sake of the show. She shared with us her experience that if you swipe to the right is yes, swipe to the left is a loser.
“It’s really scary what these guys are putting on their profiles. They really are looking to hook up. They’re specific in their chats,” she said. Miriam wanted to meet specifically for a coffee date with a guy. Then he says, “Why don’t you meet me at my apartment.
For the rest of the radio segment, click below.
For more on how to find love on Tinder, check out SwipingRight.com and follow @JulieSpira on Twitter.
Julie Spira is America’s Top Online Dating Expert and Digital Matchmaker. She’s the founder of CyberDatingExpert.com and was an early adopter of the Internet. Julie’s been helping singles find love online for over 20 years and from the convenience of mobile dating apps. Sign up for the free Weekly Flirt newsletter and share your Tinder dating stories.
Julie Spira is America's Top Online Dating Expert. She's an award-winning dating coach who's been helping singles find love online for 25+ years. Follow @JulieSpira on IG.