There’s so much digital confusion going one when it comes to texting and matters of the heart.
There’s no reason to wait by your phone to see if your digital crush or your boyfriend will be sending you a text, yet people still do.
When you or your sweetie are busy, sending a quick text is a great way to stay in touch when you can’t pick up the phone and call, or if you’re in between dates. Sending a flirty text can put a smile on his face and receiving one just might make your day.
Still, the amount of anxiety that surrounds sending or receiving text messages can’t be helped for many.
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First all of all, let’s take a big deep digital breath and look at texting behavior.
10 Facts About Texting
- Ladies, men don’t usually agonize over text messages the way that women do.
- Over-texting or sending multiple texts before getting a response may make you appear needy.
- Texting isn’t a replacement for hearing the sound of someone’s voice or getting together IRL.
- Texting can be the best digital foreplay before a date. Saying what you’re wearing, or not wearing will result in a reaction of one type or another.
- Texting shouldn’t be an obligation or chore.
- Your value is not based on the response time of texts.
- It’s fine to text him first, if you have something great to say.
- Texting to confirm dates or if you’re running late is courteous.
- If you have any doubt as to whether you should send a text, then don’t. Watch a rom-com instead.
- Not everyone keeps their phone attached to their hip, but they do usually check it when they wake up and before they go to sleep.
- If you’re reading this post, then you probably shouldn’t be sending a text.
- Never, ever break up in a text message.
Related: Does Texting Make Your Dating Life Crazy?
If you still aren’t sure what to do, this handy-dandy Should I Text Him infographic has come to the rescue.
Now I know you’ve gone out on a limb before and have sent a text message, which didn’t get a reply. You might wonder, did he receive it? Was his phone turned off? Should I send it again?
A survey from JDate and ChristianMingle showed that the response time to a text should be between 1-4 hours. They also pointed out that 68% of singes still want to talk on the phone and schedule dates, as compared to 20% who prefer texting to schedule dates.
Related: Dating in a Texting World
My message to you is, don’t agonize over a text. Ten years ago, it wasn’t even a regular part of your vocabulary and no one was busy swiping right looking to fill their date cards.
At the end of the digital day, don’t play texting and waiting games. If someone sends you a text and you’re near your phone, reply. It’s the way people are communicating these days. If you can spare some extra time, pick up the phone and call to say hello. The sound of someone’s voice will never go out of style.
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Julie Spira is America’s Top Online Dating Expert, Mobile Dating Expert, and Digital Matchmaker. She’s the author of the bestseller, The Perils of Cyber-Dating, and was an early adopter of Internet dating, coaching singles on finding love online for over 20 years. Find out how Irresistible Profiles will help you fill your date card to find your dream date.
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Julie Spira is America's Top Online Dating Expert. She's an award-winning dating coach who's been helping singles find love online for 25+ years. Follow @JulieSpira on IG.
