Meet Melissa and Ross, who found love on Match.
When Melissa first came to me, she was nervous about hiring a dating coach, and just became single for the first time in 20 years. She was actually terrified of trying online dating for the first time.
We created her Irresistible Profile on Match, had a super-fun photo shoot, and went live her dating profile with the headline of “LA Farm Girl.”
Melissa loves animals, had lived on a ranch, and as a single mom of two teenage kids, needed to find someone who was devoted to his family like she was.
Ross, whose screen name was “Dog Lover” wrote to Melissa within a few days of her profile going live.
His first message said, “You are beautiful and too beautiful to be on Match.”
He asked, “Is that what you really look like?”
Melissa replied with, “I sure hope so. I just took the photos last week.”
Before she met Ross, Melissa went on three dates to build up her confidence and get out of her shell. “It felt a bit overwhelming,” she said.
As Melissa and Ross continued to chat, they both realized they had much more than pets and children in common. Both had coincidentally attended the University of Southern California (USC) at the same time, were both enrolled in the communications program, and lived two houses apart. It was hard to believe that they had never met while in college.
Then one day, Ross sent her a message on Match and asked, “Are you done meeting these weirdos and ready to give me a chance?”
Melissa felt a connection with him and started doing her due diligence to vet Ross to make sure he was the real deal. One of her friends told her that Ross was a terrific attorney. Another friend of hers said they had built Ross’s house, and that their children went to school together.
“Everyone said wonderful things about him,” says Melissa.
Because they knew so many people in common, she felt safe about having him pick her up for their first date.
By the time they met, Melissa said they both felt like they had known each other forever.
For their first date, Ross arrived with roses, wine, and they went to dinner, where they felt a warm connection right away. “He was a real gentleman,” says Melissa.
“I knew when I saw your picture and when I heard your voice from the first conversation, that you were ‘the one,'” says Ross.
They quickly introduced their kids to each other, met each other’s families, and now realize they are each other’s forever.
Congratulations to Melissa and Ross, our online dating success couple, who proves that the big world-wide-web can make you feel like you’re at home when the right one comes along.
Julie Spira is America’s Top Online Dating Expert and an award-winning dating coach. She’s the CEO of Cyber-Dating Expert and has been helping singles find love online for over 20 years with her Irresistible Profiles programs.
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Dating Sunday, on January 7th, is the world’s largest digital love-fest. It’s also peak season for online dating, so get ready to join the party.
We’re busy at Cyber-Dating Expert with new singles joining the dating pool in what we call the “Trifecta of Dating.”
- Singles are putting love at the top of their New Year’s resolution list.
- More singles are joining the dating pool due to a pre and post-holiday break ups.
- The countdown clock to Valentine’s Day is ticking.
On ABC 7 Eyewitness News in Los Angeles, I spoke with Anabel Muñoz and John Gregory on why Match has proclaimed this Sunday as the most popular day of the year for online dating.
Watch the segment below.
What should you do to get ready for Dating Sunday?
The days leading up to Dating Sunday are a reflective time for many who are thinking about finding a meaningful relationship.
It’s also “peak season,” for online daters, which starts right after Christmas and goes through Valentine’s Day.
It’s a time for new beginnings, so take new photos, update last year’s profile, and turn on your push notifications to make the most of this season.
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What is Dating Sunday?
Dating Sunday, or #DatingSunday is the day dating sites see the greatest surge of users. Match been analyzing data since the site was launched in 1995 and predicts 8:55pm/ET, 5:55pm/PT will be the busiest, with the most usage.
The site reports a 42% spike in new singles joining on this day. During peak season, 50 million messages are expected to be sent during peak season, resulting in 1 million dates!
It’s actually quite exciting to see singles become so positive about finding love online and joining mobile dating apps and sites at the start of the new year.
Other sites, such as Plenty of Fish, expect over 117,000 new signups on Dating Sunday, peaking at 9pm.
Remember, 1 in 3 relationships start online, so you’ll be in good company and we’re here to help you find love in 2018.
Wishing you much love and joy in cyberspace, or wherever you may swipe or roam. xo
Julie Spira is America’s Top Online Dating Expert and Digital Matchmaker. She’s the CEO of Cyber-Dating Expert, and as an early adopter of online dating, has been coaching singles on finding love online and on mobile dating apps for almost 25 years. Find out how our Irresistible Profiles will help you find your dream date.
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I’ve always said that music can be an important part of your online dating profile and our friends at Match agree.
I’ve encouraged singles to include their favorite bands, use song lyrics for screen names, or list the upcoming concerts they’re scheduled to attend.
Many dating apps give you the ability to link your spotify account to your profile to see if you have similar musical taste, which is a great ice breaker.
Taking it a step further, Match created this fun musical video about a couple who met online and are excited about their new found relationship. The two are in serious crush mode and it will make you smile.
Watch this video of Match: The Musical
You just might find yourself humming along and clicking the replay button and logging on more often to find that same type of connection.
Wishing you much love and joy in cyberspace, or wherever you may swipe or roam. xo
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It was a fun and informative radio show interview on Dr. Drew Midday Live with Mike Catherwood on KABC Radio in Los Angeles.
Drew, Mike and I spoke about all the juicy details on the Mach.com’s 7th Annual Singles in America Survey. Our segment is 20:25 minutes in, to hear the playback.
Dr. Drew: We’re going to go out to Julie Spira now. She’s a national online dating expert. Match.com has their 7th Singes in America Survey. Julie Thanks for joining us.
Julie: Hi! Happy to be here guys.
Dr. Drew: So what does this survey teach us?
Julie: A lot more than any of the others. I have monitored all of the Singles in America studies, but this was one was a biggie the 7th. Anything from millennials’ attitudes towards sex, politics, feminism, you name it. So this was was really talking about things that. Online dating addiction.
Dr. Drew: Oh I saw that.
Julie: People are addicted to online dating.
Dr. Drew: 15% say they are addicted to the process of online dating. Are they also addicted to going on the dates and finding the dates and meeting different people?
Julie: Well I think the good part is they actually do go on the dates and meeting people, but they’re overwhelmed by the process. In the results, some have a little burn out and they need to take a break. But at the end of the day, it’s very very efficient. With over 50% of singles have created an online dating profile, so say so long to that old stigma.
Dr. Drew: There is another sort of bit of this data that caught so wind this morning and that is 1 3 singles said they had sex before their first date and they’re 48% more likely to have had sex before the first date than all the other generations. And that some people interpreting as the millennials feeling that sex was sort of an interview to determine if they want to date. And I said, that might be the data but it’s missing the point, which is that millennials don’t really date. If they’re going to quote dating, they’re going to have to have a relationship, so sex is the way of leading into the relationship.
Mike: Why am I as old as I am?
Julie: I look at it as digital foreplay. If they’re having sex before they’re meeting, they’re obviously sexting and if that’s the qualifier to say now I’m willing to meet you in person because now I think we’re in a relationship, I find that a little of concern. I really do. The old fashioned courtship..
Dr. Drew: Courtship is gone. We have to call it something else because they recoil against that. I think we should call it an assessment process or something. They need to have the capacity to assess people but Julie hold on, I need to talk to my partner here. Why do we need to assess?
Mike: Why is it that courtship will be gone? By no means am I a super-refined guy, or the pinnacle of gentlemanly behavior. I took pride in opening the doors for women, taking them out on a date and bringing them flowers.
Dr. Drew: That’s different than courtship. I have to take a break, but Julie, I want to address this issue of courtship. By the way, the twitter handle for you?
Julie: @JulieSpira and CyberDatingExpert.com.
Dr. Drew: That’s j-u-l-ie-s-p-i-r-a, but Mike, the reason you’re as old as you are is because you were not partaking in all of this, for if you were partaking in all of this, you wouldn’t make it out alive.
Mike: ….All joking aside, I might have started to proceed into, grow into much more dangerous behavior.
Dr. Drew: Oh, it would have been part of the addictive process.
Mike: I had numerous partners a day, commonly, without tinder. Before Tinder was even invented. Can you imagine if I could order a ho like pizza?
Dr. Drew: Midday Live Dr. Drew With Mike Catheter. We’re talking on 790 KABC and we’ll be back with Julie Spira and the Match survey after this.
Dr. Drew: Let’s go back to Julie Spira. She’s a Match Online Dating Expert. Julie, what is your website again?
Julie: It’s CyberDatingExpert.com
Dr. Drew: Courtship. So why have we expunged courtship? I remember back when I was a youth. It was sort of not cool. The whole idea in the 50s we were specifically rebelling against. And then against now, we have just never recovered from that. And it’s just continuing to deteriorate and then here the three of us are going, “courtship is important.” Why are we not doing that?
Julie: I think people are doing that. We’re finding the boomers are still opening the doors, grabbing that bill first, and picking up the phone and actually calling somebody to go on a date instead of relying solely on their mobile phones.
Dr. Drew: Texting. Yeah. And the millennials are all over the place too. Not all of them are necessarily even dating. Not a lot of them are even having sex compared to previous generations. And when they are, they’re doing it sometimes in sort of aggressive, I don’t mean aggressive in sort of the act, but aggressive in the sense of tactics. So it’s hard to figure out. I’ve been going to college campuses for years and saying, “Please restore courtship. Whatever you want to call it. Restore something where there’s an assessment process, no?
Julie: I agree and the good news is it’s not all doomsday. It is good news. 81% of the singles surveyed said they were interested in finding a romantic partner, a romantic love. Love is alive and well. We’re just looking at millennials, who in my opinion aren’t sure whether they’re hanging out or on a date.
Mike: We definitely saw that in the end of love line where how many guys were confused on where they stood with the girls. Like wildly confused.
Dr. Drew: What do you mean?
Julie: They don’t know how to define dating. Did you ask her on a date? Did you pay for the bill?
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Mike: We’ve never actually been in the same room together, but we’re in love. That was a lot of guys, or they would hang out with a girl and she maybe just had pure intentions of being friendly. They liked each others’ company and he thought they were boyfriend and girlfriend. That happened all the time. I got a very clear message when I was 20. But I also took aggressive tactics as well.
Dr. Drew: Oh really? Talk to us about that as well. What happened?
Mike: I don’t think we want to talk about that. Drew, I told you my tactics.
Dr. Drew: I know. (laughing). I just realized it. We can’t talk about it on the air. You know Mike, I think things are improving. To be fair, I guess you were a lone ranger with that stuff.
Mike: I was. I was a rogue warrior
Dr. Drew: Alright. Any other data we want to focus in on here Julie before we let you go?
Julie: Well I think it’s really important to talk a little about FOMO. The fear of missing out. Social media is really causing a lot of anxiety for singles and they’re afraid to post a photo unless they look absolutely gorgeous, because everything is about the photos. I find that really interesting because social media anxiety disorder is something I talk about a lot. So if you feel anxious about social media, take an unplugging day and go back to it the next day.
Dr. Drew: That’s interesting. Yes. Social Media Anxiety Disorder. One day it will be a diagnostic. Because you have anxiety when you don’t use it, you have anxiety when you do use it, you have anxiety for fear of missing out when you’re on it, yeah, it’s really good for mental health.
Julie: Who doesn’t count how many likes they have after posting a photo?
Dr. Drew: Alright Julie. Thank you so much again. @JulieSpira is the Twitter handle, correct? Twitter and Instagram @JulieSpira and of course the website CyberDatingExpert.com, where’s there’s a whole ton of free dating advice, so take a peek.
Mike: Let me just say, I found this conversation very In-SPIRA-ing.
Julie: Oh I love that, thank you.
Now you can mind more ways of meeting people around you on your mobile app.
As announced on the Match blog, their new location-based feature, “Missed Connections” will help the 55% of singles that feel technology has made it more difficult to connect with others in real life. Match wants to reverse this trend by harnessing technology to do what people want to do naturally—meet in real life.
Match, who won the Best Dating Site of the Year at the iDate awards, just announced their new feature, with the intent of beineg less creepy that the old Craig’s List “Missed Connections, and similar to Happn’s app, which is solely based on matching you with people you’ve crossed paths with.
This new feature on Match will help you fill your date card with singles, AFTER you’ve crossed paths at the same place.
The trend of meeting IRL is important to dating apps and sites, to avoid ghosting, breadcrumbing, or just chatting without meeting IRL.
How Missed Connections Works
- Match members will see a Missed Connections introduction page in the app, showing off the feature and asking you to opt-in.
- Once you’ve opted in, you’ll be able to browse through your recent feed of members you’ve crossed paths with, based on your current matching criteria and your location.
- The feature now makes geolocation THE priority in your search criteria, revealing the intersection points for your last crossed spot, within one block (such as Prince and Broadway) and the number of times a person has crossed paths with you.
- Missed Connections now makes it easy to start up a conversation, right within the feed, providing a natural alibi to connect with someone else.
Match’s CEO Mandy Ginsberg tells Mashable,
“While we all love to know as much as we can about potential mates, this isn’t just about giving you more information. The whole point is starting these relationships out in the real world.”
Missed Connections helps you meet the person who hangs out at the same coffee shop or dog park; someone with similar interests.
With the trend of meeting IRL and taking the relationships offline in 2017, we have high hopes for this feature, but remember, just because you like the same place, doesn’t remove the safety element you should always adhere to when meeting someone from offline, online.
Wishing you much love and joy in cyberspace, or wherever you may swipe or roam.
Julie Spira is America’s Top Online Dating Expert and Digital Matchmaker. She’s the recipient of the Best Dating Coach of 2017 and has been coaching singles with her Irresistible Dating Profiles programs for over two decades.
As summer’s starting to heat up, do you know what that means? It’s time for summer love. Are you ready?
Our friends at Match recently conducted a study and found that summer is the best time of the year to start online dating. So grab your mobile phone, tablet, computer, and a smile as June 27th is around the corner and it’s the busiest day for online dating this summer.
As you dive into online dating this summer, here are some fun date ideas to suggest to your digital crush to add to your date card.
Dr. Helen Fisher, Biological Anthropologist and Match’s Chief Scientific Advisor, said in a press release that, “Sunlight gives people energy.”
“We humans don’t have a mating season; we breed all year long. But increasing light does give us a sunny personality and more energy and optimism – all of which could increase our sexuality.”
Get ready to fill your date card for Monday, June 27th, and for the rest of the summer, with these hot summer date ideas.
3. Catch an Outdoor Movie
4. Attend a Music Festival
5. Prepare a Meal and Have a Picnic
6. Go Stargazing
7. Explore at a Farmer’s Market
8. Attend a Baseball Game
9. Be Tourists
10. Ride a Roller Coaster
The study also identified the top 10 cities where users communicate the most during this season, so you just might want to change your zip code and cast a wider net if your city isn’t on this list.
Top 10 Flirtiest Cities in the Summer
1. Winston-Salem, NC
2. Stockton, CA
3. Raleigh, NC
4. Springfield, MA
5. Hartford, CT
6. Durhamn-Chapel Hill, NC
7. Santa Rosa, CA
8. Jacksonville, FL
9. Manchester, NH
10. Tucson, AZ
Are you ready for summer love? If not, we’re here to help, so check out our Irresistible Dating Coaching plans to help you find the love of your life.
Julie Spira is America’s Top Online Dating Expert and Mobile Dating Expert. She was an early adopter of online dating and as a celebrity dating coach, has been helping singles on finding love online for over two decades with her Irresistible Profiles coaching programs. Julie’s the author of the bestseller, The Perils of Cyber-Dating: Confessions of a Hopeful Romantic Looking for Love Online .
To help you with your search, Match.com will be saying goodbye to your old screen name and you can now officially use your first name on your profile. As we can see from mobile dating apps such as Tinder and other sites, singels actually like to see your real name on a profile.
In thinking back to my first user names, I wanted to have a bit of anonymity and used “Pianobaby” as I played a baby grand piano and “HarleyQT” as I loved riding on the back of bikes. I felt they were a good representation of my personality with the hopes of finding someone else who was passionate about music and motorcycles.
Starting today, you can change your screen name to your first name. According to the Match blog, If you’re first name is Sarah, Michelle or Lisa, chances are you’ll get more emails from men. For the guys, if your first name is Mike, Steve, or Dan, you’ll have a greater chance of receiving an email from the ladies.
How to Change Your User Name on Match
If you’re ready to retire your screen name now, log on to your Match account and go to Account Settings to change your Match username to your actual name. You can also also change it using the Match app on your iPhone.
To celebrate this right of passage, Match would like to hear your horrible usernames– because let’s face it, everyone has had one. Tweet @Match using #RIPMatchUsername and they’ll pick their favorites to win a free 6-month membership.
Are you ready to change your screen name?
Julie Spira is America’s Top Online Dating Expert and Digital Matchmaker. She’s been helping singles find love online for over 20 years with her Irresistible Profiles coaching programs. For more dating advice follow @JulieSpira on Twitter and sign up for the Free Weekly Flirt newsletter.
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It was an honor and joy to be invited to Match.com’s headquarters in Dallas with the top relationship experts in the country.
After a full day of meeting with their executives, we finished the day with an interview on our top dating tips for a first great date.
From what to wear to where to go, we hope you enjoy our video below.
Questions we answered included:
1. First date: Coffee Drinks or Dinner?
2. Should you dress up or down?
3. Is it a group date or a real date?
4. Do you leave early if there are no sparks on a date?
5. Who pays for the first date?
6. Mamas boys: runs or cuddle?
7. One question you should always ask on a first date?
Enjoy our video and post your comments as well.
What are your first date tips and deal breakers?
Julie Spira is America’s Top Online Dating Expert and Digital Matchmaker. She was an early adopter of the Internet and creates Irresistible Online Dating Profiles for singles on the dating scene. For more dating advice, follow @JulieSpira on Twitter and sign up for the free Weekly Flirt newsletter.
One day, she decided to turn to online dating and joined Match.com.
“It was the summer of 2011 when I joined Match,” explains Becky.
“I tried Match because I guess….after so many years of not being in the dating world, I figured that would be the best way to meet people.”
Becky had a few dates, but they weren’t her cup of tea.
Then in October of 2011, she started communicating with Philip. Phil had been single for over 10 years before meeting Becky.
After talking via email and phone for a week or so, the two agreed to meet for a late lunch on October 13 at Pappy & Harriett’s.
“It was so much fun,” explains Becky. “We just kept talking and laughing, and talking and laughing, and he took me for a ride on his motorcycle. Five hours later we had a hard time parting ways, wanting to spend more time together. But we did say good-bye for the night.”
The next morning Philip emailed Becky and said…”You definitely have my attention”. They’ve been together ever since, splitting time between both Becky and Philip’s homes.
When I saw Becky and Phil, they were celebrating their 2-year anniversary and couldn’t stop saying “I love you” to each other.
Congratulations to Becky and Philip, who prove you can start your life all over again while looking for love online.
Do you have an online dating story to share?
Julie Spira is a top online dating expert and founder of CyberDatingExpert.com. Julie was an early adopter of Internet dating and has been helping singles find love online for 20 years with her Irresistible Profiles and Online Dating BootCamp programs.
Did you know that 39% of engagement ring purchases occur between Thanksgiving and Valentine’s Day?
Before you go out and buy that diamond ring she’s been dreaming of, if you’re one of the many online dating couples who have found love on Match.com, you? just may be in luck.
Our friends at Match.com have just announced a contest to help you “Pop the Question” in style worth over $15,000.? Complete with a diamond engagement ring from Robbins Brothers, a custom-designed proposal plan from The Proposal Planner (TM) and wedding expert Sarah Pease, and a videographer to professionally capture your proposal, you’ll have an engagement to remember.
“Creating personalized proposals for couples that they will never forget is a dream come true,” said Sarah Pease. “I’m looking forward to collaborating with and celebrating Match.com’s success by creating the next proposal sensation for one lucky couple.”
Success couples who met on Match can enter from November 4, 2013 through November 22, 2013 at www.metonmatch.com. and and answer the question,
“Why does your match deserve the ultimate proposal?”
For over five years, Match.com has ranked the highest of our success stories in our Cyber Love Story of the Week feature. It’s been an honor and joy to help many singles find love on their online dating site. If you have any friends who’ve met on Match and are thinking of getting engaged, forward them these details.
Note: Entries will be judged by a panel of experts based on each submission’s creativity and the human interest value of the couple’s story.
NO PURCHASE NECESSARY. VOID WHERE PROHIBITED. Only open to continental US residents age 18+ as of entry date. Sponsor: Match.com, L.L.C., 8300 Douglas Ave., Suite 800, Dallas, TX 75225. Contest runs from 12:00 A.M. (CST) on November 4, 2013 through 11:59 P.M. (CST) on November 22, 2013. Aggregate retail value of prizes: $15,500.
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